Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Sunday, October 21, 2012
Sunday mornings for me are waking up later than usual and reviewing new blogs and reading interviews. I came across an interview a Fetlife profile of a female submissive who stated she didn't live the lifestyle 24/7 because she couldn't see anyone surrendering their "Will" to someone else. So for her spanking was for role play. That's fine with me. I mean to each his/her own. But, I think she misunderstands, at least in me and my wife's case, the surrendering of her "Will".
I wouldn't be in love with my wife if it wasn't for her unique and most colorful "Will". She has never lost her free "Will" and I'll never even consider trying or wanting to change it. She does what she wants when she wants and that's part of what makes her adorable.
She doesn't surrender her will when she gets spanked. Getting spanked for doing something she's not suppose to do or for something she didn't do is her free "Will". Perhaps that's hard for some to wrap around their brain. My wife knows what she should do and usually does it. But there are those times she knows what she should do and doesn't do it. Most of the time it's not outright rebellion it's that she chose NOT to do what she should have done.
My wife isn't a Masochist and isn't "turned on" by getting spanked. She simply sees and knows the benefits that a spanking can have when it's correctly and justly given.
"Does she have to obey? And isn't that giving up free Will?" I don't see how it is giving up her free Will when it is her "Will" to obey and get spanked when she doesn't obey. Or when it's her free "Will" to get spanked when she fails to do those things that she knows she should.
And if it takes getting spanked to tears then so be it!
All pictures are from Spank Her 4 Real Videos "Dad's Tools"
Friday, October 12, 2012
My last post was 9 days ago and perhaps a few of you have thought I fell off the planet. The truth is that I have been a healthy admirer of one kind of butt and an unhealthy admirer of another.
I started smoking when I was 18 and over the past year I can tell my body is slowing down. It's been harder to get up in the mornings and physically at work it's been tougher too. A little of the slowing is age I'm sure but I know the majority of my aches and pains have been due to smoking.
So around the first, which was my last post 9 days ago, I've been using patches and have smoked occasionally but not much. That's made be irritable to say the least and with ADHD anyway my energy is coming back.
However, knowing that at this stage my perception may be a bit tainted I've been refraining from making judgements as to either giving my wife a basic spanking or a real butt blistering one. I don't necessarily trust that I would be spanking her because of my withdrawal symptoms or because she really need one.
I'm not sure if she's using this time to get away with things that she otherwise would get spanked for but if she is now is a good time to get it out of her system. lol
Well, hopefully things will be back to normal, minus cigarettes, and I'll be posting again on a regular basis.
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
So I'm at work today and get a couple of long texts from my wife explaining what she had planned for this afternoon and evening. I was in the middle of something and couldn't write back much so I wrote something like, "I'm sure some things in the back yard will be picked up too."
When I got home she said that when she got that text she thought some of the other things on her list could wait and decided to do what I mentioned in my text. I sure do love her. And she's beginning to learn what it takes to get out of getting spanked too.