Those who don't understand spanking in marriage or relationships are missing out. For the most part those who don't understand it think it's abusive and you must either be a masochist to receive spankings or a sadist to give them. I'm no sadist and my wife is definitely not a masochist. She receives a tremendous amount of respect from me because of her submissive to my authority and that can't be measured.
She knows just by seeing my actions that I'm making decisions that I feel are best for the whole family and not just selfish ones that benefit me. I don't issue orders for things to be done and then set on my ass all day and do nothing. She knows if something from me needs to be done I'll do it either right away or in a very reasonable amount of time.
She also knows that she does things that she wants and needs to do but leaves other things undone that need to be done. For her spanking is what works. I don't grab her by the wrist and pull her across my lap and wail away either. It's a very calm process. I tell her she's getting a spanking, sit down and she comes over to my right side. She'll at times, try to talk her way out of it, but she's usually doing that while she's pulling her pants and panties down. Then she lays across my lap and I remind her what the spanking is for and it starts.
She willingly submits to the spankings because it works for us and it quit frankly "just seems right".