Friday, February 28, 2014
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
The 'Christian' movement that tells husbands to SPANK their wives 'to correct misbehavior'By Ashley Collman
A growing number of married American couples are agreeing to allow husbands to keep their wives 'in line' by taking to corporal punishment.
The trend is called Christian Domestic Discipline and much of what is known about the practice is published on the website Learning Domestic Discipline, published by husband and wife CDD duo, Clint and Chelsea.
The website states: 'It is an arrangement between two adults who share the belief that the husband is the head of the household and with that position comes the right to enforce his authority.'Clint and Chelsea have also written a 50-page packet on the practice called Beginning Domestic Discipline.
Manifesto: Learningdd.com is a source of a lot of information on the new painful Christian trend
Discipline: In CDD, husbands spank their submissive wives in order to correct misbehavior
That translates to all methods of punishment, not exclusive to spanking. Clint and Chelsea advocate lecturing, removing privileges, corner and bedroom time – essentially the ways most people discipline their children.
For CDD enthusiasts, this type of punishment isn’t sexual in nature.
Vera (anonymous last name), who is in a CDD relationship with her husband told The Daily Beast that the practice is in no-way sexual.
'The pure CDD people don't go there. A lot of folks think of Fifty Shades of Grey - but this is not that.’
Spanking is clearly the bread and butter of this kind of relationship. Eighteen pages of the CDD manifesto are dedicated to spanking and how to properly go about administering spanks.
Tools: A hairbrush is one of the listed items sanctioned for spanking on in the Beginning Domestic Discipline packet
Paddle: A wooden spoon is another spanking tool. In the packet, Clint and Chelsea warn that one of the cons with this tool is that it 'can break easily'
Corporal punishment at home obviously leads to questions about whether or not this is domestic abuse. Clint and Chelsea stress in their packet that CDD should only practiced by consenting adults and that the HoH should never punish while angry.
‘If the HoH becomes angry, they must do whatever it takes to get themselves back to a calm, reasonable, rational, level-headed, and collected state before making any decision or carrying out any punishment.’
But as evidenced on many forums dedicated to CDD, the practice has turned violent in cases.
‘I wanted the spankings to stop and my husband told me it was either DD and marriage or divorce. I chose divorce. I couldn't handle the pain of spankings anymore, emotionally or physically,’ a woman named Michelle wrote on a popular CDD blog found in reporting by The Daily Beast.
What’s scarier is how little fear is expressed in these forums.
XOJane writer Laura Rubino investigated the issue and trolled the internet looking for horror stories but was surprised when she ‘didn’t find as many of those as I was expecting to.’
The punishment, Rubino said, offers these women a clean slate and they don’t have to worry about passive aggressive tension after a fight.
While many of these women rave about CDD, it’s not something that Rubino would voluntarily sign herself up for.
‘Walking around my own home, conscious of the fact that any perceived transgression could result in physical pain and a surrendering of control of my body? That would stress me the f*** out. I don't find that sexy at all. Scary, yes. Hot? Not so much.'
Jim Alsdurf, a forensic psychologist who has written a book on abuse in Christian homes, agrees.
‘No fool in his right mind would but this as a legitimate way to have a relationship. A relationship that infantilizes a woman is one that clearly draws a more pathological group of people.’
Even conservative Christians aren’t behind this trend. Radio host Bryan Fisher told The Huffington Post that he finds no basis in Christianity for such a relationship. He described the trend as ‘horrifying,’ ‘ bizarre,’ ‘unbiblical’ and ’un-Christian’.
'God in the New Testament clearly asks wives to arrange themselves under the leadership of their husbands (in Greek, the word 'submit' means 'to arrange under.') But there is no place where husbands are instructed to make their wives do it or punish them if they don't.'
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2346393/The-Christian-movement-tells-husbands-SPANK-wives-correct-misbehavior.html#ixzz2uR2BC6HF
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Friday, February 21, 2014
Humbled Females teaches the virtue of female submission to those who are so inclined to pursue this path. We believe such females are best suited as loving, caring, and servile counterparts to their men.
We believe in the good in a man, and the potential within him to be a strong source of guidance, discipline, leadership, and protection for a woman. We are committed to exemplifying the excellence of the ideal male archetype, giving honor and dignity back to the male sex, particularly in a surrounding culture that often attempts to marginalize it.
Humbled Females is a safe haven for submissive women who are driven by fantasies of complete subjugation to their alpha male ideal. To that end, we choose to explore how the innate drive for submission to male authority in the female reveals the core of her animal nature, and how best it can be refined as a path for her own carnal and spiritual attunement, a path often enshrouded in the contemporary West’s new directives for the sexes. We believe dependence upon and submission to a man is not degrading, but attractive to the true essence of femininity.
Humbled Females is for women who serve their male counterparts consensually with lucid desire and passion. We are devoted to providing literary resources, observation exercises, and further inspiration in refining the female mind toward improved service, loving obedience, and the essence of femininity, which we believe at its heart is yielding, respectful, gentle, and pliant.
We do not believe a woman who lives this way is flawed. While we respect the rights of others to live differently, we do not see the submissive female as inadequate, insufficient, unsound, or out of touch, as many of her contemporary sisters often do. We see a woman who serves her man as a return to the wisdom of her symbiotic animal nature, unclouded by modern assertions that she should do otherwise.
We believe in helping men learn what dominance truly is. We reject the condescending attitudes about maleness culture tends to sell to young men and women and work to dissect the mythology of male power (and weakness) in society today, so as to build a foundation of awareness, nobility, and character in men that is reality-based and free of misandrous propaganda.
While feminism and female submission are not necessarily exclusive, we certainly do avoid the influence of radical feminism, working through numerous manifestations, to unseat/degrade the masculine. We reject influences of socially fashionable male bashing, believing the desire for social equality is good, but demeaning the male sex to achieve that goal is ignoble and harms both men and women.
We celebrate the sexual force between male and female, and while we believe the erotic is the natural medium through which male and female bond, submission is not only about the flesh. We feel the aspects of emotion, intellect and spirit in submission are equally important if one aims to be submissive in the truest sense of the word.
Thursday, February 20, 2014
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
For me, being dominant isn't really a matter of choice, it's simply part of who I am. I'm also sensitive, caring, loving, artistic, philanthropic and so much more. All of us have many sides or parts that make up who we are.
For me, being dominant isn't being domineering either. My father was domineering and that led to an unhealthy fear of him. My dominance is more benevolent.
I've met a lot of dominant men throughout my life who were far more domineering in the unhealthy sense than in the benevolent. Those who dominate through fear do so because they seek control. In part to control others but more so to have control in their lives. The truth is that their lives are more out of control and the more out of control the more domineering they are to others.
My dominant personality is centered more on equalizing moments of life than it is in controlling anyone. My wife, for example, has an unbalanced life. She gets caught up in the moment and before she realizes it that moment has turned into hours. The result is that she spent a lot of time on one thing and no time on other things that should have been given her attention.
What helps her a great deal is the reminder that she needs to spread out her time and do other things and not just focus all her attention on the one thing. Her reminder is a good sound spanking. It reminds her before the spanking by thinking about what she did or didn't do that got her to the point of the spanking. It reminds her as she's getting spanked when I bring up what she failed to do as I'm spanking her. It reminds her after the spanking when she sits down and she things about how she could have avoided the spanking if she would have simply completed other tasks rather than let them go.
Being dominant means a following through with what needs to be done too. For me it's only natural that I'm dominant and my wife is submissive to me. That is how she sees it too. If we were both dominant our life together wouldn't work and if we were both submissive that couldn't work either. For me being dominant is like breathing.
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
Friday, February 14, 2014
This lovely picture (above) is my wife's Valentine to me. She proudly perks it up for either spanking, fucking or both. Today is the perfect day to give my Valentine something she's needed for awhile. A good sound spanking. No excuses, no talking me out of it, just a good spanking that will give her white bare bottom that nice red glow I've come to love. Happy Valentine's Day!!
Friday, February 7, 2014
Sunday, February 2, 2014
I just recently noticed Bonnie of "My Bottom Smarts" blog has retired from blogging. I'm not sure why except that sometimes blogging gets old. What I mean is there are times when there's nothing to write about but you feel obligated to write something anyway.
I've decided to "un-private", is you will, this blog and bring it back. My wife still needs a spanking from time to time and what better way to express or talk about her spanking than through this blog.