It is romantic to her that I'm man enough to put her across my lap and redden her bottom and it's romantic to me that she submits.
It's romantic to her that she's put in her place and that place is where I place her. She melts when I enter her from behind and thrust myself deep into her and she melts when I make her bottom a light pink or deep red.
She isn't forced to submit she is willing to submit. Submission is a part of her and it completes her. Surrendering to my will and her spanking gives her that feeling of being loved and cared for. No one understands this except those who do.