I think I'm a pretty fair spanker when it comes to dealing with naughty bottoms. I give the warning, or warnings, that a spanking is on the way if something isn't getting done and should be done. Then I tend to sit back and observe all of the other things that go one besides that one thing that should be going on because I gave my warning, or warnings.
I've come to the conclusion that females want and may even like being shown who's the boss. Perhaps it's a way of feeling protected and taken care of. My wife has said, on several occasions, that she'd rather get a spanking from me than for me to be upset with her.