I don't know how others do it. Other couples in Vanilla relationships I mean. I'm guessing the do a bit of arguing and shifting the blame when it comes to this getting done or not done.
I left for work yesterday and mentioned a few things that needed to be done because I had not been instant of their priority and when I got home those things were done plus a few others. No one shivered in their boots or felt that I was being unreasonable. They were things that had been let go for awhile and needed to get done.
There are times, many times in fact, when I think the girls push things to the limit to test how far they can go and get away with think that's only natural.