I never thought I'd say this but, "In my day..."
I'm on Fetlife at least twice a day checking threads and I'm amazed at comments I've heard from guys who say they can't find that special someone. I even read that from women too.
The internet has been around for over 40 years now but as for all of us using it like we do today it's only been around 15 years. The ability to connect to like minded people as increased 100% every year since then. If I had the internet, in my day, in my 20's I can't even fathom were I'd be today.
For years I thought I was the only one on the planet that felt the way I do about spanking. If I was 22 all over again and I wanted to know if there were others who felt as I do I would be instantly connected to thousands, 10's of thousands and even more.
I had to be pretty bold, looking back now, to date only women who understood spanking in a lifestyle. Since 1993, for example, there's only been one woman I can think of who didn't accept my spanking lifestyle.
I still remember telling her she was going to get spanked and when she did get that first and only spanking. Which was no butt burner, believe me. Anyway, a few days later she called and very nicely said that she didn't believe adults should punish or get punished that way. I then remarked that, "Does that mean you're not willing to be spanked again?" And she said yes to my question.
To her surprise I then calmly and in a very nice tone told her that I wished her all the best in life and hoped that she would one day find her special someone. She then replied, "What a minute, you're breaking up with me?"
She was sure that by telling me about her feeling regarding spanking that I would just NOT spank her every again, but keep the relationship. Well, first off she needed her bottom spanked on a regular basis and there was no way I would be dating her another day and not put her across my lap when she needed it. Second, I vowed never again to date anyone who didn't understand my feelings about spanking.
None of us really have to put up with not having that special someone in our lives, especially today. However, for some guys I do understand that it can be difficult. If you're an Asshole, have No sense of humor, look for every and any reason to spank or punish, smell badly and or you're a narcissist and believe the world revolves around you, then no wonder it's hard to find someone. It's not that you spank or want a DD or HOH relationship it's that you're a jerk and an Asshole plain and simple.
I have found that those who want a kinky lifestyle want the same things Vanilla relationships want too. No one is going to want a relationship with me, for very long for sure, if I'm lurking around every corner to discipline them. If I'm setting ridiculous rules even a goddess or god couldn't follow. If I'm boring to be around because I have no sense of humor or only take one shower a week then why would someone want a long term or any term relationship?