Just started a new group on Fetlife

For those of you on the kinky social network Fetlife.com I've started a new group there called, of all things, "I spank my wife".  So come join the discussion or start your own discussion.  If you've never been on fetlife it's easy to join and free so you have no excuses.  Hope to see you there.  Oh, and go ahead and Friend me too. https://fetlife.com/groups/60283

What would your answer be?

Spanking your wife vs. Hitting your wife

There are those who would say that spanking is hitting.  I totally disagree with that idea.  I can't imagine hitting with my fist or slapping someone.  I could do that in self defense if I had to but I couldn't conscienceless hit someone out of anger.  Perhaps that's where people are confused about spanking?

To me spanking isn't out of anger and I don't spank to release any anger.  I am human and I do get angry from time to time but I never use spanking as a way to release anger.

When it comes time for her spanking my wife knows she deserves it.  She doesn't jump for joy about it but knows she has it coming.  Left on her own she knows she wouldn't get certain things done.  Spankings are her incentive, or perhaps not getting the spanking is her incentive.  I'm not perfect so I don't expect her to be either.  Her conscience will tell her that this or that should be done or cleaned up and many times it's not a thought of "I'll get spanked" but simply that it needs to be done.  From time to time she will recognize that she's not getting something done and she simply needs incentive.

Spanking to us is simply part of "love" to us.  That may be hard for the rest of the screwed up world to understand but not to us.

Spank first and ask questions later

I think I'm a pretty fair spanker when it comes to dealing with naughty bottoms.  I give the warning, or warnings, that a spanking is on the way if something isn't getting done and should be done.  Then I tend to sit back and observe all of the other things that go one besides that one thing that should be going on because I gave my warning, or warnings.

I've come to the conclusion that females want and may even like being shown who's the boss.  Perhaps it's a way of feeling protected and taken care of.  My wife has said, on several occasions, that she'd rather get a spanking from me than for me to be upset with her.

Wishing I was home

I'm a work now but wishing I was home spanking my wife.

Happy Birthday!

Today is my wife's birthday!  Last night she was doing some touch up painting on our Garage Sale sign and as she was painting she commented, "I just remembered you told me to get this sign ready for this Saturday and that was a week or so ago.  I realized I'd better get on this or tomorrow I'd be getting a "REAL" birthday spanking!"

I'd like to say "Happy Birthday" to my wife and let her know she's the best thing that's happened in my life for some time.  In regard to spanking it's not that she accepts her spankings but it's also the mere fact that we can simply talk about spanking and neither of us feel strange about it.  It's a part of our life.

Again, "Happy Birthday" and your birthday spanking is just going to be a "fun" spanking!

Good Guidelines for Subs Seeking Doms

I found this post on Fetlife and thought it was pretty good, and true. Just click the underlined title below and it will take you there.

Good Guidelines for Subs Seeking Doms by Einherjar1

The Palms Seattle visit Review

First let me say that my wife and I didn't go to the gathering last night to review them and make judgements.  We simply attended with the idea of meeting like minded people.

You never know what to expect the first time you visit a gathering of this nature so we weren't expecting much.  We walked through the door of a small banquet area where 10 or so regulars were already seated and got what seemed to be surprised looks.  Perhaps they thought we were lost and in the wrong area.

We sat at the end of the large table and after introducing ourselves to one of the couples the husband instantly knew the name "Spank Her 4 Real".  He couldn't say enough about how enjoyed our "Rose" videos and her sassy attitude.

Mostly we ordered pizza, had small talk with those around us and ate our pizza.  Everyone there seemed very friendly and comfortable with spanking as they introduced themselves as either a Spanker or Spankee.  Every time the server came around we toned down our spanking discussions and pretended to talk about Curling.

 All and all we had a good time meeting new spanker friends and look forward to visiting again.

The Palms Seattle tonight!

Tonight my wife and I will be attending "The Palms Seattle" monthly event in Seattle.  My wife seems very excited to attend the group get together.  We both feel we may have more in common with others who attend because it's, as they put in on their web site;

 

What are we? An adults-only spanking group. Mostly male top/female bottom, though we do have a few switches.  We think of ourselves as  a "female friendly" spanking group. What this means is that we want to go out of our way to make female members, particularly new ones, as comfortable as possible. Women are  more hesitant to attend functions and reply to ads than men are. What we strive for is to make any curious females as comfortable as possible on a social level, and then let her proceed within the spanking community at her own pace and comfort level. We welcome complete newbies to the scene and seasoned players equally. This is in no way meant to disrespect the males in the group- without you we wouldn't have a group! 

Please look around the site and read the different forums to determine if you think this group is for you. The web site is updated on a very regular basis, so check it frequently.

What are we not? A BDSM group. So if you are more into a BDSM lifestyle, this group is probably not for you. But if you are completely enchanted with the idea of going across a top's lap for some well deserved punishment, or standing a very naughty lady in the corner as you bring out your implements, all the while scolding her as she stands there, bottom bared, dreading and anticipating at the same time, then read on.

We are almost strictly a male top/ female bottom group, though exceptions can always be made. Switches are welcome. Male/male scenarios are not.

Great Job!

I'd have to say that the kitchen table and living room were perfect and far exceeded my expectations for clean when I got home from work yesterday.  My wife did a great job.  Now the key is to keep it that way.  What happens is someone puts something down and leaves it and then a little more each day the piles creep up and before you know it there's a substantial mess.  So cheeks were spared yesterday and life is good.