Noticing her avoidance to getting spanked!

It's been clear lately that my wife doesn't want to find herself in this position in the kitchen.  She doesn't mind being bare from the waist down because she knows I enjoy her being like that.  However, she doesn't like that spanking that can come with a kitchen that's not kept up.

I give her a lot of credit for doing her best to stay on top of things. I notice her effort and appreciate her very much.  She's even seeing other things that need to be taken care of and working on those things too.  The carpet for example is seeing a lot more vacuum cleaner usage and she's making a serious effort to keep the couch clear of miscellaneous items that should be put away.

It's the most wonderful time of the year!

A few weeks back I had a comment from an anonymous viewer, reader, of this blog so I posted the comment.  She was obviously not a supporter of spanking in anyway and gave her two cents about how much of a jerk I must be and how little of a man I am for spanking my wife.  She gave her opinion on what things I should do and how I shouldn't spank.  I didn't comment on her opinion really I just posted it and let her have her say.  But now it's my turn to say a few things.  I haven't gone back to the comment to read it because it says a lot of things that are "assuming" something is or isn't the way it really is so she's, to me, just speaking out of her ass!

I believe that my wife would be the first to tell you that from time to time, or even more than that, she needs a spanking.  She would also tell you that I don't go around looking for reasons to spank her either.  She would probably say the reasons are right there in front of you.  lol

I believe she would tell you that I have a great sense of humor and that I don't get into moods were I'm a tyrant and selfish about my wants either.  She knows I want to walk into a clean house.  I want to walk into a clean kitchen, bathroom and bedroom.  She wants the same thing too.  She knows I simply want some order to things.  Her biggest challenge isn't not wanting to clean or do certain things it's organizing her time.  She starts one thing and takes too long in doing it because she gets caught up in it and before you know it other things she wanted and needed to do didn't get done.

She would be the first to admit that it's the spanking, or spankings, that help keep her on track with what needs to be done.  It's her incentive.  She doesn't want a diamond ring, fancy clothes, brand new cars, etc., so getting her those things aren't a reward to her for cleaning the house or an incentive in achieving order in her life.  

It's our agreement, her getting spanked and me being the HOH.  Why do people have to leave nasty comments regarding how THEY think someone they don't even know should live their life?  I'm not by any means a fan of the woman being the HOH and the man being submissive but I don't go around to blogs where that relationship is practiced and leave nasty comments.  What's the point?

So, it's about that time for my wife to get another round of spankings for things she's not done lately.  When you start reading about them understand that she has free will and if she thought for a second she didn't deserve them or that I was abusive and unfair then she simply wouldn't get across my lap. 

 

Giving her a better dispostion on life.

Spanking a naughty female bottom helps give them a much better disposition than not spanking.  I really think that deep down in every woman's heart is a desire to be taken by a man and put in her place, in a loving and caring way.  To me spankings are one of those loving and caring ways a man can tell a woman that he loves and cares about her.

Haven't been in a writing mood lately.

I must admit I haven't been in much of a writing mood lately.  I've been devoting a lot of time in making Paddle samples for my Paddles 4 Pain and Pleasure blog.  I've gotten the samples done but now there's pricing and descriptions and so on.  Plus I still need to figure out a way of selling them without starting up another website.  I haven't checked into Pay Pal yet and still need to do that.

I'm also making spanking furniture that can go anywhere in your home without giving away it's use, other than as a piece of furniture.  So far I have a unique stepping stool that could go anywhere.   

My wife's been on her best behavior so her last spanking really sank in.  With Spring here and Summer on it's way there's more I can do around the house and my wood shop after work now too.

Well, just thought I'd give those of you who are interested, an update. 

A bit of a surprise but not really

It came as a bit of a surprise to my wife when, at the end of the day, I said, "I'll meet you in the bedroom."  There was no reply of, "What for?" or "Did you want to fool around?"  She knew what for and simply got up from the couch, went into the bedroom, took off everything from the waist down and stood there waiting for me to come in.

The fact is she always knows that her spanking is deserved.  I do believe that she wishes she had spent those few hours during the week on organizing and cleaning so she wouldn't have to be across my lap with her naked bottom getting spanked but I'm true to my word.

After Her Spanking!

For many the spanking and all that comes with it is over once the spanking stops and she's given her hug and cuddle so she knows all is good.  However, there are those occasions when I feel it's necessary for her to, shall I say, cool down.  Her bottom can still be very warm to the touch and a little humiliation can be good for her.  Plus, the more she exposes her body the more she is comfortable with it.

Frankly, my wife will walk around naked when I suggest I would like her to do just that.  To my wife, her body is for my pleasure and if that pleases me then she does it without hesitation.  

How to spank your wife!

First, I'll assume that you and your wife have an understanding regarding you spanking her.  That understanding would be that she willingly submits to your authority over her and accepts spanking as a way of correcting her behavior.

Second, you must establish basic rules that she is to follow.  It's best that she picks the first ones.  That way she can't come back and say, "That's not far."  Then you pick rules that you want her to follow.  Start out easy and don't overload with insignificant rules like, she must wear yellow on Tuesdays.

  
It doesn't take much for me to get my wife across my lap.  For the most part all I have to do is nod or point to our bedroom, as I give her that look and she knows to head there fairly quick.  90% of the time she already knows she's in for a spanking but there are a few times she's caught by surprise.

When she knows before hand that a spanking's coming and I point to our bedroom she usually has everything off from the waist down by the time I get in there.  That's smart because she knows that if she doesn't the spanking will be harder or longer or both.

The key is from start to finish.  That is I start out with sound smacks to her ALWAYS bare bottom and I keep the same impact and rhythm until it's over.  She doesn't like it one bit but if she didn't get the spanking two things would happen.  One, she'd lose respect for me and two she'd feel guilty about getting away with something she knew she shouldn't have done, or should have done.

   
My wife is one of the finest women I've ever had the pleasure to know.  She has a high degree of integrity and her submissiveness to me is natural and true.  It's no game for her.  We laugh everyday, even those days when I turn her bottom red.  The reason is because with a spanking, it's over.  There's no pouting and being grumpy around the house because I'm upset with her.  I've taken care of it.  She's accepted it with grace and now we move on.

She would never think of putting her hands behind her to protect her bottom either.  No matter how long her spankings have been she has always seen it through to the end.

There have been many times right after her spanking when I've taken her from behind and starting making love to her.  She has even been sniffling and crying as I go deep inside her.  The whole experience of her willingly submitting to a spanking she admits she deserves fills me with passion.  I'm the instrument of her sour flaming bottom and soon after I'm inside her, as she is on her knees with her red bottom sticking up high and her head buried in our mattress, I become the instrument of her excitement and passion.   She likes to be taken.  It makes her feel like a wanted woman.

It doesn't take long for her sniffling and cries to change to moans and groans.  The view of her very red bottom, her long flowing her laid out wildly on the bed, the way she grabs and the sheets and holds on with each thrust gives me reason to pound deep.  When she's properly shaved her pussy is more sensitive to the pounding of my balls and the spanking she just received won't come back to her mind until later when she sits down.

That's how to spank your wife!  

  

Update on my wife's behavior

I'm not surprised to see my wife keeping things clean and getting to the gym like she's suppose to.  I think she would be the first to admit how much she likes it too.  Once something becomes routine it takes less time to do it and you rarely feel that you're going out of your way to do it.  It is what it is and becomes part of life.

My wife's first spanking for 2013!

She can't say I didn't warn her.  Last night, Sunday, I learned that the week before she hadn't made one visit to the gym.  She was told she would be spanked if she didn't get to the gym at least once a week to start and that's exactly what happened.

Taking her when I want.

My wife has recently confided in me that she would have no problem with me bending her over and taking her from behind anytime, anywhere.  It's that way already at home and even in the garage but those are secluded and private areas.  She tells me that she often fantasizes about me taking her that way in stores, the mall or where ever.

"Your the man and in charge so if you want me, take me."  I do so love that attitude.

Hesitant to spank at times!

I have to admit that from time to time I'm hesitant to spank.  I'm not out to control anyone so when I look at naughty behavior, or what appears to be naughty behavior, I focus on the reason behind it.  My wife and I have good communication in our relationship and spanking to her isn't at all cruel or demeaning.

To her, a man isn't a man unless he's the Head of the House.  She recognizes that having to answer to me regarding what she should and shouldn't do is good for her.  There are a multitude of things she wants to do or get done but admits that without the incentive of a good ol' fashion spanking she would probably leave well enough alone. 

In a way it's like a romantic novel where the man comes in and sweeps her off her feet.  He knows what he wants and he wants her, so he takes her.  She likes that because he's man enough to do it.  It's not a barbarian and violent scene that plays in her head but more of a John Wayne you're with me and I'll protect you kind of thing. 

To her, honestly, if a man wasn't man enough to give her that spanking when she deserves it she wouldn't be with him.  I'm not a control freek and I hate to mico manage,..anyone.  But, I do like a clean house and so does my wife.  But she would admit that sometimes she lack the motivation to keep up the house work.  That's where I step in and that's what she wants.  To her, if I wasn't willing to spank her for not keeping the house clean then that would mean I don't care.  She wants a man who cares and who cares enough to turn her white bottom a nice bright red.

There are many women out there who call themselves submissive and think they desire a relationship like the one we have.  However, I have found that the majority of them want it on ONLY their terms.  That's what makes our relationship so special.  I don't spank arbitrarily either.  On the drive home from work I don't think about how I can justify spanking my wife because I'm in the mood to spank her.  Sometimes just walking through the door and taking a quick glance is reason enough, lol.

Butts, butts and no butts!

My last post was 9 days ago and perhaps a few of you have thought I fell off the planet.  The truth is that I have been a healthy admirer of one kind of butt and an unhealthy admirer of another.  

I started smoking when I was 18 and over the past year I can tell my body is slowing down.  It's been harder to get up in the mornings and physically at work it's been tougher too.  A little of the slowing is age I'm sure but I know the majority of my aches and pains have been due to smoking.

So around the first, which was my last post 9 days ago, I've been using patches and have smoked occasionally but not much.  That's made be irritable to say the least and with ADHD anyway my energy is coming back.

However, knowing that at this stage my perception may be a bit tainted I've been refraining from making judgements as to either giving my wife a basic spanking or a real butt blistering one.  I don't necessarily trust that I would be spanking her because of my withdrawal symptoms or because she really need one.

I'm not sure if she's using this time to get away with things that she otherwise would get spanked for but if she is now is a good time to get it out of her system. lol

Well, hopefully things will be back to normal, minus cigarettes, and I'll be posting again on a regular basis.  

Where's the beef spanking

One of the things my wife would admit she gives a reasonable amount of effort doing is "misdirection" in regard to her bottom getting spanked.

She knew a spanking was coming when I got home yesterday from work for her attitude and lack of concern toward preparing dinner the evening before.  So when I walked through the door I could clearly see the living room was picked up and vacuumed.  I could hear the laundry going and there she was in the kitchen putting dishes in the dishwasher too.  Those were things that needed to be done but the fact they were all being done at that time is part of her misdirection.  She figured that I would be happy to see what had gotten done and what was being done around the house so I'd forgive, or forget, what needed to happen regarding her spanking.

There have been plenty of times when I've fixed dinner for myself after work.  All of them have been good reasons and I had little to know problem with doing that.  It was a problem Thursday evening because I was just told that she was going to the store because there was a sale.  She didn't mention anything about bringing home a pizza, or fixing dinner when she got home, or me fixing dinner myself.  So when I sent her a text about when she'd home and did she plan on dinner she seemed unconcerned.  It's not that I'm helpless it's that I work all day and it is her job to prepare dinner, or make arrangements for dinner, not mine.

So when I got home Friday after work to find her loading the dishwasher I made it quick with I'll see you in our bed room.  There was no trying to get out of it as I followed her into the room.  I sat down on the edge of the bed as she pulled down and off her pants and panties and then she put herself across my lap.  It's not like this hasn't happened before either, not having dinner ready or planned.  She knows that if she's spanked for something then she'll stay on top of it.  If she's not spanked then she knows she'll continue pushing the limits.  Truth is she likes a man to put his foot down and say, "That's it, no more."  Putting my foot down means making her bottom red but she respects that and if she didn't then she wouldn't willfully put herself across my lap after striping from the waist down. 

I forgot to mention that her submissiveness and obedience to her spanking aroused me so much that after the hugs and kisses, that always follow her spankings, we made love with her red as up in the air and her moaning like she didn't want the sex to stop.

Spank first and ask questions later

I think I'm a pretty fair spanker when it comes to dealing with naughty bottoms.  I give the warning, or warnings, that a spanking is on the way if something isn't getting done and should be done.  Then I tend to sit back and observe all of the other things that go one besides that one thing that should be going on because I gave my warning, or warnings.

I've come to the conclusion that females want and may even like being shown who's the boss.  Perhaps it's a way of feeling protected and taken care of.  My wife has said, on several occasions, that she'd rather get a spanking from me than for me to be upset with her.

I've been MORE than patient!

I have been more than patient with my wife but that has ended.  I expect the kitchen table to be cleared and clean, the kitchen cleaned and the living spotless when I get home tonight.  If they're not then she might as well be in the bedroom ready for a more than good ol' fashion spanking, a butt burner!

Comments from none Domestic Discipliner's

Whether it's on this blog or my spankher4real blog, Fetlife or Collarme.com I just don't get some of the comments readers will make.  If you don't agree with this lifestyle, fine.  Why leave, shall we say, unfavorable comments?  I don't go to sites that promote golden showers and leave nasty comments.  What would be the point?  I'd be wasting my time.  Why would someone being reading this blog or others like it and not be into the lifestyle?

The path!

Getting things done but neglecting other things seems to be the constant path with my wife lately.  She reads this blog when ever I post so this is "Fair warning" that there are things that need to get done that have been neglected.  If they're not attended to the above color is what her bottom is going to be, and soon!

Dinner by 5:30!

In order for me and those I work with to have Monday off last week, Memorial Day, we agreed to work 10 hour days Tuesday through Friday.  That meant leaving for work at 4am and coming home around 4:30pm.  So that would give me just enough time to take a shower and chill a bit before sitting down to eat which I wanted ready by 5:30.  That way I could eat and relax with the family a bit until I go to bed at 7pm.

Well Tuesday night dinner was ready at about 5:45 so I didn't fuss all that much about it but Wednesday it wasn't ready until 6.  So I suggested to the girls that if dinner wasn't ready by at least 5:30 the rest of the week sitting might not be an option.  Guest what?  The following day and the day after that dinner was ready before 5:30.

The above picture is my wife working on cutting back some on a tree in our yard.  She's getting a lot done in the yard but still lacks focus to work on other things she needs to attend to.

Knowing what I want

I would imagine that every man would love to hear the words, "Just tell me what you want and I'll do it.", coming from the lips of their wife or girl friend.  My wife said those very same words awhile back and was totally sincere about it too.  If I want her to walk around the house with just a shirt on and bare from the waist down she'll take off what's needed.  If she's in the kitchen and I come in and start getting frisky she doesn't push me away or ask me to stop.  If I unbutton her jeans and then start sliding them and her panties down to her ankles she step out of them.  She wants me to have what I want and that's an incredible feeling.

In return I provide and give her what she wants and needs.  It would be better to ask her just what those are but like every relationship, even with a DD/HOH one, there's give and take and sharing with each other.  I do for her because it puts a smile on her face and makes her happy.  In return she does the same for me.

 

FIST Spanking Fridays

It seems lately that Fridays are going from TGIF to FIST (Friday Is Spanking Time).  A few Fridays ago I put my wife across my lap and gave her a good spanking because she had neglected a room that she knew has needed to be cleaned and organized.  Last week we had great weather and a lot of yard work to do to get things ready so because she had worked on the room a bit more I let her pass last Friday on getting her bottom spanked again.  However this week the weather wasn't all that great for working outside and I expected the room to be worked on a lot more.  It still hasn't been worked on much or at all.  So, once again it's going to be a FIST Friday if I come home and don't see any real progress on the room.  I think I've been more than patient and it's time to get down to business if I don't see a vast improvement today after work.