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Young women should be getting spankings right up to their wedding day and from then on their husband and father spank them when needed.

Traditional Gender Roles

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Gender roles today seem to be so very confusing.  It's simple, the man is the Head of the House!

The most productive way to communicate to my wife!

Most couples have their heart to heart talks while sitting on the couch, preparing food in the kitchen or after they've settled into bed.

For the Head of the House this can be a good time to work on getting to the point regarding his wife's behavior.  However, I have found that many times she doesn't fully understand the point I'm trying to make.

I've found the best way to get my point across is to simply sit in an armless chair, put her across my lap and bare her bottom.  In this manner she doesn't know if she's going to get spanked or not but she does have my FULL attention.  And her listening ability improves 200%.

If, while I'm talking, she attempts to make excuses or interrupt me all that's needed is a swat or two and she quickly goes back to listening only.  

I recommend this in all situations were the Head of the House needs to get the point across.  Sometimes it's good, before leaving the house for work, to do this.  I guarantee that throughout her day she will remember the position she was in before you left for work.

Of course, from time to time, it may involve warming her behind and giving it a nice red glow to get your point across but that truly is up to her.  She either listens and doesn't get spanked or she doesn't listen and gets spanked.  Either way it's a win, win for me!

Spankings are the Great Motivators for wives!

There have been a few things around the house that are in need of my wife's focused attention.  Over the years I've discovered that when I merely hint that something needs to get done, and she knows it's something she's been putting off, she starts getting it done.

She has a strong desire to get things done but allows other things to get in the way to distract her.  Soon there's this little thing that didn't get done and then that thing that gets put off because this other thing happened.

Over the years I've watched her add things to her schedule, or routine, that gives her an excuse for not getting something else done.  She has a way of putting things off and it takes putting her across my lap, baring her bottom and making her wish that she hadn't put things off in the first place.

She hates getting spanked but she also agrees that she needs the spanking.  Spankings are the great motivators for wives and that's not just my opinion it's hers too.

Structure!

I've realized that what my wife needs is structure to help her focus on the basic things that need to get done around the house.  So I came up with this to help her in providing structure!  Comments are always welcome!

How every husband should be greeted, or else!

Being Dominant!

For me, being dominant isn't really a matter of choice, it's simply part of who I am.  I'm also sensitive, caring, loving, artistic, philanthropic and so much more.  All of us have many sides or parts that make up who we are.

For me, being dominant isn't being domineering either.  My father was domineering and that led to an unhealthy fear of him.  My dominance is more benevolent. 

I've met a lot of dominant men throughout my life who were far more domineering in the unhealthy sense than in the benevolent.  Those who dominate through fear do so because they seek control.  In part to control others but more so to have control in their lives.  The truth is that their lives are more out of control and the more out of control the more domineering they are to others.

My dominant personality is centered more on equalizing moments of life than it is in controlling anyone.  My wife, for example, has an unbalanced life.  She gets caught up in the moment and before she realizes it that moment has turned into hours.  The result is that she spent a lot of time on one thing and no time on other things that should have been given her attention.

What helps her a great deal is the reminder that she needs to spread out her time and do other things and not just focus all her attention on the one thing.  Her reminder is a good sound spanking.  It reminds her before the spanking by thinking about what she did or didn't do that got her to the point of the spanking.  It reminds her as she's getting spanked when I bring up what she failed to do as I'm spanking her.  It reminds her after the spanking when she sits down and she things about how she could have avoided the spanking if she would have simply completed other tasks rather than let them go.

Being dominant means a following through with what needs to be done too.  For me it's only natural that I'm dominant and my wife is submissive to me.  That is how she sees it too.  If we were both dominant our life together wouldn't work and if we were both submissive that couldn't work either.  For me being dominant is like breathing.

Sometimes you just have to spank!

No matter what others think, in her mind she got just what she needed and deserved!  She knew what she needed to do and she was given plenty of time to get it done.  She knew well ahead of time what was going to happen if it wasn't done so her red bottom isn't a surprise to her at all.  In the end, she respects that fact that she was taken in hand by a real man who wasn't afraid of doing what needed to be done!

It's the most wonderful time of the year!

A few weeks back I had a comment from an anonymous viewer, reader, of this blog so I posted the comment.  She was obviously not a supporter of spanking in anyway and gave her two cents about how much of a jerk I must be and how little of a man I am for spanking my wife.  She gave her opinion on what things I should do and how I shouldn't spank.  I didn't comment on her opinion really I just posted it and let her have her say.  But now it's my turn to say a few things.  I haven't gone back to the comment to read it because it says a lot of things that are "assuming" something is or isn't the way it really is so she's, to me, just speaking out of her ass!

I believe that my wife would be the first to tell you that from time to time, or even more than that, she needs a spanking.  She would also tell you that I don't go around looking for reasons to spank her either.  She would probably say the reasons are right there in front of you.  lol

I believe she would tell you that I have a great sense of humor and that I don't get into moods were I'm a tyrant and selfish about my wants either.  She knows I want to walk into a clean house.  I want to walk into a clean kitchen, bathroom and bedroom.  She wants the same thing too.  She knows I simply want some order to things.  Her biggest challenge isn't not wanting to clean or do certain things it's organizing her time.  She starts one thing and takes too long in doing it because she gets caught up in it and before you know it other things she wanted and needed to do didn't get done.

She would be the first to admit that it's the spanking, or spankings, that help keep her on track with what needs to be done.  It's her incentive.  She doesn't want a diamond ring, fancy clothes, brand new cars, etc., so getting her those things aren't a reward to her for cleaning the house or an incentive in achieving order in her life.  

It's our agreement, her getting spanked and me being the HOH.  Why do people have to leave nasty comments regarding how THEY think someone they don't even know should live their life?  I'm not by any means a fan of the woman being the HOH and the man being submissive but I don't go around to blogs where that relationship is practiced and leave nasty comments.  What's the point?

So, it's about that time for my wife to get another round of spankings for things she's not done lately.  When you start reading about them understand that she has free will and if she thought for a second she didn't deserve them or that I was abusive and unfair then she simply wouldn't get across my lap. 

 

Don't be a Sadistic Spanker!

If I've learned anything about spanking it's that you can't just spank because you can.  My wife has been going through a very rough time do to stomach problems.  Her doctor started her on a medication that seemed to provide some relief of the pain for awhile but it wasn't doing the job completely.  More tests were done and now new medication should take care of what was going on.

So I explained that to explain that during the last 3 or 4 months things, as in rules, haven't been getting done.  Any other asshole Dominant Husband might just spank away and not consider other factors.  I don't spank just to spank.  I look at as much of what's going on as I can.  Are there emotional issues going on that need to be addressed, such as illness, a death in the family or a friend and so on.  You can't just spank because you want to spank that's not right.  

Things have gotten lax around the house but with this new medication I'm hoping first and foremost that my wife is feeling better and back to her ol' self.  Once she is it will be much easier for her to get caught up with things.  It's not just what I want in the matter it's also what she wants.  She wants things to be in order and clean.  She wants to go to the gym on a regular basis.  But first she wants to feel better and not be in pain all the time.

New parking sign in our driveway,..I wish!

A good wife, a good spanking!

Usually it takes a minute or two into her spanking before there's much of a fuss.  A fuss might be my wife simply getting louder vocally as the spanking goes on.  This time she was a bit more emotional because the parking tickets turned out to be more than we were told because of extra fees.  Plus the time, gas and extra trouble it took to get to the court house.  

She certainly got spanked and it was sound but this time she was crying 20 seconds into the spanking and by a minute she was putting her hand back to protect her bottom.  This is something she's never done before so I didn't see it a rebellious and trying to get out of the spanking.  The crying and the hand back there was telling me she was REALLY sorry and also emotional.  I kept going but didn't make the spanking as long and as hard as I have in the past and the next day she suggested we finish the spanking because in her mind it wasn't has hard and long as it should have been.

That's another reason why I love her.  But the fact is it's over.  She was spanked emotionally and then physically so there's no need to spank again for her tickets.  I just don't want to see unpaid tickets, or tickets again.

UNPAID PARKING TICKETS?

So, I go on line this morning to update the License Tabs on our car but discover I can't because of UNPAID PARKING TICKETS!  I know they're not MY parking tickets and since no one else drives the car except my wife it must be her.

Now we not only have to pay for tabs but can't get the tabs until we pay for parking tickets.  I think a good morning spanking is totally in order this morning.  Since my wife gets up and goes through her emails first thing I'm sure she will see this also.  So, I will be expecting her to text me when she's ready for her spanking this morning.

Into Spanking?

Some years ago, before the internet, texting and even before the average person had a cell phone dating was a bit different in many respects.  Today if you have "kinky" tendencies you can go to a variety of sites and seek out someone who thinks and feels the same way.  Back in my early years of dating it was next to impossible to find out if the woman you were dating or wanting to date was into spanking or not.  You would learn different ways of finding out, eventually, but that process was sometimes long and arduous.

There were a few women who I dated and expressed my feelings regarding spanking.  Their reactions were very similar in that they felt that because they weren't into spanking, whether DD, HOH or just for play, that I could just push an "off" button and not be into spanking myself.  Boy were they wrong.  And the few times I tried doing just that, turning off the spanking button, I found out I was wrong too.

The fact is that you can't force a spanking on anyone who doesn't want one, I mean really you can't.  I recently gave a butt blistering spanking to a submissive, which I filmed, who had some interesting things to say about spanking.  She likes being spanked, and soundly, for a variety of reasons I won't go into and when I told her my wife gets spanked because we're in a DD, HOH relationship but she, my wife, isn't INTO spanking she laughed and said, "On, she's into spanking or you wouldn't be able to spank her."

It took a few days for that to sink in and register but I've come to realize that she was right.  My wife isn't into spanking when it comes to the pain of getting her bottom bared and spanked.  She's into spanking in regard to submitting to my authority and being punished for something she didn't do or did do and wasn't suppose to.  If I tell her in the morning she's going to get spanked she dreads the rest of the day until she gets spanked so I now bring it up 30 minutes or so before so she doesn't go through the anxiety.  If she wasn't into spanking there is no way I would be able to spank her.  I doubt 5 grown men could pin her down and spank her against her will.

And that's what it really comes down to is her free will to submit.  It's noticeable to me, after every spanking she's gotten, that there's a change in her attitude.  It isn't an "I'll just got my bottom blistered and I hate you," attitude.  It's more of a "Thank you for being a man and HOH and giving me what I needed," attitude.  In many ways it's an affirmation that I still love her and care about and for her.  I love my wife for so many reasons and her spankings are icing on the cake for me on so many levels.      

A good spanking cleared some things up.

I don't feel I'm a demanding person but when some things aren't done then a bottom gets bared and spanked.  When I got home last night, after work, I discovered that a few things I had asked to be done weren't even started, namely dinner.  My wife quickly admitted that she lost track of time doing something else and when I pointed to our bedroom she knew exactly what was going to happen.

We walked in, she pulled everything down, got across my lap and had no excuse for not have the things done that I wanted done.  That was a good thing on her part because it shorten the spanked considerably.  After her spanking she got on her knees on the bed and I took her from behind as I gazed at her freshly spanked red bottom.  

All in all yesterday ended very well for me. 

Focus!

I am big on organizing.  I wouldn't say I'm anal about it but I do see value in being organized.  If my wife needs a screw driver, hammer, tape, etc, she knows where it's kept in my wood shop.

I started a relatively small project in order to organize some space and I find that getting her to help has been like pulling teeth.  She reads my blog whenever there's a new post so I'm sure she will read today's post.

This project will be completed today or her bottom is going to look like LeAnne's in the picture above. 

I rather like this idea!

Does anyone know of the opposite form?  This would be a form the spankee would submit to the Spanker.  How about one the Spanker would give to the spankee?

A spanked wife is a happy wife.

A spanked wife is a happy wife.  I have no doubt there are many who wouldn't understand that sentence.  But those wives out there who are loved by their husbands, and spanked by their husbands, understand the dynamics.

If there's something my wife knows she shouldn't be doing and keeps getting away with it then she begins to feel that I don't care or love her.  If I did care and love her then I'd take care of her behavior.  For those in the lifestyle it makes perfect sense but for others it's strange.  From time to time I even get email from spankee's who are only into spanking because they LIKE it or use it as stress release.  My answer to them is, "Good for you."

A Healthy fear of Confession!

There's something healthy about the fear of confession when your adult daughter calls with the desire to tell you about something she did and she's pretty sure she's going to be in trouble for it.

In trouble for it, even though she's 21, means that she's pretty sure that telling me means she's risking the chance of getting her bare bottom spanked.

Even though a spanking is a clear possibility she feels compelled to clear her conscience and let the chips fall where they may.

In my opinion the world would be a much better place there were more with that healthy fear of confession.

Giving her a better dispostion on life.

Spanking a naughty female bottom helps give them a much better disposition than not spanking.  I really think that deep down in every woman's heart is a desire to be taken by a man and put in her place, in a loving and caring way.  To me spankings are one of those loving and caring ways a man can tell a woman that he loves and cares about her.