Saddle Sore Sundays

Taylor's well spanked bottom is a good example for us to start off our series "Saddle Sore Sundays". 

My wife just came up with this saying so I thought I'd share it.

"Feed the man to avoid the hand!"

Where can you spank your wife?

When I say no, I mean NO!

Coming home to find the Christmas tree being decorated by a sexy Mrs. Claus is great but when you find out that she plans on going to a retirement home dressed like that it's not good at all,..for her.

Then to top it off she actually looks at me and says, "I'm going to go!"

That's when you grab a bench and even if the window shade is up you put her across your lap and start teaching her to NOT talk back.

That seems to be a constant problem for Holly so after her first OTK she goes to her knees and begins to please but using her lips for something more productive than talking back.

It's always important to maintain control so no matter how well she pleases her bottom must still turn the desired red I like to see.

I had a Ho, ho, ho and merry ol' time with teaching Holly that talking back to me is never a good idea.

Choices and Patterns

I'm pretty straight forward.  I get up almost the same time everyday, even without an alarm clock.  For the most part I go to bed the same time every night too.  I'd like to think I'm dependable.  

By now my wife knows that I'm dependable when it comes to spankings.  It's been chaos around here the past few months and it's just been one of those things.  There was a time when things that were beyond my control bothered me tremendously.  Today my attitude toward those things is, "It is what it is."

I really never need to convince my wife that she's in need, or deserves, or has earned a spanking.  In fact if I could read her mind the moment her panties hit the floor so she's bare from the waist down I would thinks she's thinking, "I can't believe I got away with it this long!"

She does make a failed attempt to offer logical reasons why something didn't get done but the simple fact that she's striped herself from the waist down and getting across my lap for a spanking shows that even she doesn't accept her reason or excuse. 

She knows that in the end the spanking will encourage her to get done what she's been unable to get done on her own.  In conclusion it's very interesting how much she pays attention to every word I speak regarding what hasn't gotten done and what needs to get done when she's "Bare Ass" across my lap.  I may start using that as a way of giving instructions on what needs to be done in the future.

Who knows, it might be that a females listen far better when there bottoms are bare and facing upward?

Quiet time after a Spanking.

I do so enjoy her quiet time after her sound spanking!

Painting Her Bottom with a Nice Red Glow!

So my wife and I had a little talk regarding her not following through with doing what she said she would do, which was painting a newly built wall.  She admitted that she, of her own free will, volunteered to do the job.  She confessed that I wanted it done within a certain time frame and that she agreed she could do that.  

So here it was Saturday around 1pm and she was about to go run another errand which was to take an additional 2 hours of her time.  So into the bedroom we went and this time straight from her bath.  As she placed herself across my lap she explained, "I'll get it done when I get back, I promise."  My reply, as I began doing my own style of painting which turns her white behind to a nice Red, was, "Oh I know you'll be keeping that promise!"

When she returned home she put on old cloths, got the paint, brushes and rollers out and began what she kept putting off.  In the end, pardon the pun, she did a GREAT job.  What a difference a spanking makes.

The End

Where's the beef spanking

One of the things my wife would admit she gives a reasonable amount of effort doing is "misdirection" in regard to her bottom getting spanked.

She knew a spanking was coming when I got home yesterday from work for her attitude and lack of concern toward preparing dinner the evening before.  So when I walked through the door I could clearly see the living room was picked up and vacuumed.  I could hear the laundry going and there she was in the kitchen putting dishes in the dishwasher too.  Those were things that needed to be done but the fact they were all being done at that time is part of her misdirection.  She figured that I would be happy to see what had gotten done and what was being done around the house so I'd forgive, or forget, what needed to happen regarding her spanking.

There have been plenty of times when I've fixed dinner for myself after work.  All of them have been good reasons and I had little to know problem with doing that.  It was a problem Thursday evening because I was just told that she was going to the store because there was a sale.  She didn't mention anything about bringing home a pizza, or fixing dinner when she got home, or me fixing dinner myself.  So when I sent her a text about when she'd home and did she plan on dinner she seemed unconcerned.  It's not that I'm helpless it's that I work all day and it is her job to prepare dinner, or make arrangements for dinner, not mine.

So when I got home Friday after work to find her loading the dishwasher I made it quick with I'll see you in our bed room.  There was no trying to get out of it as I followed her into the room.  I sat down on the edge of the bed as she pulled down and off her pants and panties and then she put herself across my lap.  It's not like this hasn't happened before either, not having dinner ready or planned.  She knows that if she's spanked for something then she'll stay on top of it.  If she's not spanked then she knows she'll continue pushing the limits.  Truth is she likes a man to put his foot down and say, "That's it, no more."  Putting my foot down means making her bottom red but she respects that and if she didn't then she wouldn't willfully put herself across my lap after striping from the waist down. 

I forgot to mention that her submissiveness and obedience to her spanking aroused me so much that after the hugs and kisses, that always follow her spankings, we made love with her red as up in the air and her moaning like she didn't want the sex to stop.

Forced Spankings

I could NEVER force a spanking.  In other words fight a female over my lap for her spanking, no matter how bad she needed the spanking either.  To me it's equal to rape and it would be in vain as well.  

When it's understood and agreed that a spanking is how misbehavior and the like is going to be taken care of then that's that.  At times there's a little need to help her across the lap because she's standing there with her pants down and trying to come up with excuses regarding her behavior but she is still going across my lap of her own free will.  She doesn't like it but she does know she has it coming.  She's been warned and she knows she's pushed it as far as she could and now it's time to pay the price.

I've discovered that in the same way long hair is a "Crown" of sorts for many women so too is a blistered bottom.  There bottom has been spanked and whether it's 15 minutes or the next day they get a feeling of being taken care of and nurtured.  They're walking around the mall thinking, "I submit to my husband and I'll bet you wouldn't even think to do so."  For many submissives that's their crown.  They are stronger than other women who don't submit.

 

Just started a new group on Fetlife

For those of you on the kinky social network Fetlife.com I've started a new group there called, of all things, "I spank my wife".  So come join the discussion or start your own discussion.  If you've never been on fetlife it's easy to join and free so you have no excuses.  Hope to see you there.  Oh, and go ahead and Friend me too. https://fetlife.com/groups/60283

Spanking your wife vs. Hitting your wife

There are those who would say that spanking is hitting.  I totally disagree with that idea.  I can't imagine hitting with my fist or slapping someone.  I could do that in self defense if I had to but I couldn't conscienceless hit someone out of anger.  Perhaps that's where people are confused about spanking?

To me spanking isn't out of anger and I don't spank to release any anger.  I am human and I do get angry from time to time but I never use spanking as a way to release anger.

When it comes time for her spanking my wife knows she deserves it.  She doesn't jump for joy about it but knows she has it coming.  Left on her own she knows she wouldn't get certain things done.  Spankings are her incentive, or perhaps not getting the spanking is her incentive.  I'm not perfect so I don't expect her to be either.  Her conscience will tell her that this or that should be done or cleaned up and many times it's not a thought of "I'll get spanked" but simply that it needs to be done.  From time to time she will recognize that she's not getting something done and she simply needs incentive.

Spanking to us is simply part of "love" to us.  That may be hard for the rest of the screwed up world to understand but not to us.

Happy Birthday!

Today is my wife's birthday!  Last night she was doing some touch up painting on our Garage Sale sign and as she was painting she commented, "I just remembered you told me to get this sign ready for this Saturday and that was a week or so ago.  I realized I'd better get on this or tomorrow I'd be getting a "REAL" birthday spanking!"

I'd like to say "Happy Birthday" to my wife and let her know she's the best thing that's happened in my life for some time.  In regard to spanking it's not that she accepts her spankings but it's also the mere fact that we can simply talk about spanking and neither of us feel strange about it.  It's a part of our life.

Again, "Happy Birthday" and your birthday spanking is just going to be a "fun" spanking!

Great Job!

I'd have to say that the kitchen table and living room were perfect and far exceeded my expectations for clean when I got home from work yesterday.  My wife did a great job.  Now the key is to keep it that way.  What happens is someone puts something down and leaves it and then a little more each day the piles creep up and before you know it there's a substantial mess.  So cheeks were spared yesterday and life is good.

Time Warp recalls spanking memories

I was clicking through channels looking for something to watch when I came upon a channel that shows mostly T.V. shows from the 60's and 70's and man what a Time Warp.  So I started doing a search of T.V. shows I used to watch back then like "That Girl".

an "Here comes the Bride"

"Bewitched"

"I Dream of Jeannie"

"Gilligan's Island"

"Gidget"

"Brady Bunch" and the list goes on and on.  One BIG reoccurring  theme was cut girls who seemed to get into some kind of trouble and needed there naughty bottoms spanked.  So many of those girls could do the "Pout" look so well.  Bewitched, That Girl, I Dream of Jeannie could give that look of "I'm getting spanked aren't I?"

Not much has changed from those days.  I still see that look from my wife.  To me it's pretty adorable.

 

The path!

Getting things done but neglecting other things seems to be the constant path with my wife lately.  She reads this blog when ever I post so this is "Fair warning" that there are things that need to get done that have been neglected.  If they're not attended to the above color is what her bottom is going to be, and soon!

Why does a DD/HOH work with Spanking?

Those who don't understand spanking in marriage or relationships are missing out.  For the most part those who don't understand it think it's abusive and you must either be a masochist to receive spankings or a sadist to give them.  I'm no sadist and my wife is definitely not a masochist.  She receives a tremendous amount of respect from me because of her submissive to my authority and that can't be measured.

She knows just by seeing my actions that I'm making decisions that I feel are best for the whole family and not just selfish ones that benefit me.  I don't issue orders for things to be done and then set on my ass all day and do nothing.  She knows if something from me needs to be done I'll do it either right away or in a very reasonable amount of time.

She also knows that she does things that she wants and needs to do but leaves other things undone that need to be done.  For her spanking is what works.  I don't grab her by the wrist and pull her across my lap and wail away either.  It's a very calm process.  I tell her she's getting a spanking, sit down and she comes over to my right side.  She'll at times, try to talk her way out of it, but she's usually doing that while she's pulling her pants and panties down.  Then she lays across my lap and I remind her what the spanking is for and it starts.

She willingly submits to the spankings because it works for us and it quit frankly "just seems right".  

Dinner by 5:30!

In order for me and those I work with to have Monday off last week, Memorial Day, we agreed to work 10 hour days Tuesday through Friday.  That meant leaving for work at 4am and coming home around 4:30pm.  So that would give me just enough time to take a shower and chill a bit before sitting down to eat which I wanted ready by 5:30.  That way I could eat and relax with the family a bit until I go to bed at 7pm.

Well Tuesday night dinner was ready at about 5:45 so I didn't fuss all that much about it but Wednesday it wasn't ready until 6.  So I suggested to the girls that if dinner wasn't ready by at least 5:30 the rest of the week sitting might not be an option.  Guest what?  The following day and the day after that dinner was ready before 5:30.

The above picture is my wife working on cutting back some on a tree in our yard.  She's getting a lot done in the yard but still lacks focus to work on other things she needs to attend to.

FIST Spanking Fridays

It seems lately that Fridays are going from TGIF to FIST (Friday Is Spanking Time).  A few Fridays ago I put my wife across my lap and gave her a good spanking because she had neglected a room that she knew has needed to be cleaned and organized.  Last week we had great weather and a lot of yard work to do to get things ready so because she had worked on the room a bit more I let her pass last Friday on getting her bottom spanked again.  However this week the weather wasn't all that great for working outside and I expected the room to be worked on a lot more.  It still hasn't been worked on much or at all.  So, once again it's going to be a FIST Friday if I come home and don't see any real progress on the room.  I think I've been more than patient and it's time to get down to business if I don't see a vast improvement today after work.

Just the mention of a "S"

I don't know how others do it.  Other couples in Vanilla relationships I mean.  I'm guessing the do a bit of arguing and shifting the blame when it comes to this getting done or not done.

I left for work yesterday and mentioned a few things that needed to be done because I had not been instant of their priority and when I got home those things were done plus a few others.  No one shivered in their boots or felt that I was being unreasonable.  They were things that had been let go for awhile and needed to get done.

There are times, many times in fact, when I think the girls push things to the limit to test how far they can go and get away with think that's only natural.

Loom and Doom!

I don't want to live life like I'm an Ogre lurking around every corner waiting for my wife to mess up.  And I don't want her to feel the same way either but here's the thing.  She's known since last Friday that I wanted her to work on cleaning and organizing a specific room in our house.  She agreed that the room needed her serious attention and that she would have it done.  This past week the weather has been great so instead of working on the room she made the choice of going outside and working in the yard ALL week.  Now the yard is beginning to really take shape and I commend her for the fine job she did,..on the yard.  However, she didn't just disobey me regarding the room this week.  To me she willfully disobeyed me.  She made the decision to not spend even a minute on the room and do only what she wanted to do and not what needed to be done.

Before her spanking we had a talk on the couch in the living room and I could tell at first that she thought she would be getting away with it because of her kidding around and how she justified doing the yard work instead.  As if that made up for not doing what she needed to do with the room.  Finally, I could see her mood change and I could tell she was telling herself, "I'm not getting out of it this time."  So I sent her to our bedroom.

When I got there the lights where out and her bottom wasn't bared so immediately that made her up coming spanking longer and harder because she knows how she's supposed to get ready.  She slipped everything off from the waist down and slide across my lap on the bed and then she got it good.  Halfway into her spanking, as I could see her bottom went from a silky white to a soft red, I started getting very turned on.  Part of it is the sound of the spanking, part of it is the color of her bottom and part of getting turned on is her vocal expressions.  But overall I'm turned on by her complete submission to what was obviously a sound spanking.  

When the lesson to not disobey me was over I told her to get up on the bed, she knows the position, and she practically flew there.  So within seconds her bottom went from a flaming torch to her vagina being filled with my cock.  Her please for spanking comfort went into moans of, "Oh he's so hard."

Afterward she admitted that she tends to push the limits and that she deserved the spanking.  And she also added that she had forgotten, just a bit, about how heavy the palm of my hand is and how much my spankings sting.  It had been awhile.  So I suggested a weekly maintenance spanking and she said thanks but she didn't think she would need that. lol