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Thursday, February 28, 2019

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Young women should be getting spankings right up to their wedding day and from then on their husband and father spank them when needed.




Sunday, February 24, 2019

Thursday, March 1, 2018

The most productive way to communicate to my wife!

Most couples have their heart to heart talks while sitting on the couch, preparing food in the kitchen or after they've settled into bed.

For the Head of the House this can be a good time to work on getting to the point regarding his wife's behavior.  However, I have found that many times she doesn't fully understand the point I'm trying to make.

I've found the best way to get my point across is to simply sit in an armless chair, put her across my lap and bare her bottom.  In this manner she doesn't know if she's going to get spanked or not but she does have my FULL attention.  And her listening ability improves 200%.


If, while I'm talking, she attempts to make excuses or interrupt me all that's needed is a swat or two and she quickly goes back to listening only.  

I recommend this in all situations were the Head of the House needs to get the point across.  Sometimes it's good, before leaving the house for work, to do this.  I guarantee that throughout her day she will remember the position she was in before you left for work.


Of course, from time to time, it may involve warming her behind and giving it a nice red glow to get your point across but that truly is up to her.  She either listens and doesn't get spanked or she doesn't listen and gets spanked.  Either way it's a win, win for me!

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Monday, January 9, 2017

Understanding the dynamics of spanking

It seems there are more people into BDSM than just spanking, or Domestic Discipline.  To me BDSM is more of a play fantasy escape that couples or people share from time to time.  I think if you say you're into BDSM it's safer than saying you're into, or participate in Domestic Discipline, HOH, spanking.

I've talked to a lot of Spankers and spankees over the years and many still don't understand the dynamic of spanking in context with Domestic Discipline.  Many will have this idea that it's abuse.

Every couple, when getting married, take vows.  The promise to do this and that and so on and so on.  They've most likely had many talks with each other about how their married life will be, or at least dream it will be.  There are hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of couples out there who took their vows and agreed on a great deal of things that would and wouldn't happen in their marriage but had know idea that their spouse would get drunk and beat them regularly.  Or that they had an anger problem and would take out their anger on them and the children.  The list can go on and on.


So, when my wife and I first got together it was understood that I spanked.  She agreed with my philosophy that from time to time a wife needed to go across her husband's lap for more than just one reason.  Believe me, my wife is a strong independent woman and if she didn't want to get spanked she would be able to fight it.  Since, I don't believe in physically taking her across my lap it is something she has to submit to.  In other words, I either send her to our room and tell her I'll be in there shortly.  In which she bares her bottom and waits for me to come in and administer her spanking. Or I will tell her I'll meet her in our room.  In that case I'm sitting on the edge of the bed, she comes in and strips from the waist down and puts herself across my lap for her spanking.   Neither of us see NO abuse there.

In addition, for me, each time that happens I gain a tremendous amount of respect for her.

Thursday, January 5, 2017

Noticing her avoidance to getting spanked!


It's been clear lately that my wife doesn't want to find herself in this position in the kitchen.  She doesn't mind being bare from the waist down because she knows I enjoy her being like that.  However, she doesn't like that spanking that can come with a kitchen that's not kept up.

I give her a lot of credit for doing her best to stay on top of things. I notice her effort and appreciate her very much.  She's even seeing other things that need to be taken care of and working on those things too.  The carpet for example is seeing a lot more vacuum cleaner usage and she's making a serious effort to keep the couch clear of miscellaneous items that should be put away.

Saturday, December 31, 2016

Spankings are the Great Motivators for wives!

There have been a few things around the house that are in need of my wife's focused attention.  Over the years I've discovered that when I merely hint that something needs to get done, and she knows it's something she's been putting off, she starts getting it done.


She has a strong desire to get things done but allows other things to get in the way to distract her.  Soon there's this little thing that didn't get done and then that thing that gets put off because this other thing happened.


Over the years I've watched her add things to her schedule, or routine, that gives her an excuse for not getting something else done.  She has a way of putting things off and it takes putting her across my lap, baring her bottom and making her wish that she hadn't put things off in the first place.


She hates getting spanked but she also agrees that she needs the spanking.  Spankings are the great motivators for wives and that's not just my opinion it's hers too.

Monday, October 31, 2016

Understanding Submission, Spanking and the Romance of it all

There is a Romance to spanking that few people understand unless you are into spanking.  I think the idea that people have is that spanking is violent and that the person spanking is angry and taking out their anger on the one they are spanking.  Logically they would assume that the spankee is abused because of the "harm" being done to them.  I don't doubt there are those who spank out of anger and that there are spankees who submit to it out of fear.  But that kind of spanking is NOT what I'm referring to.


The Romance of it all is the willing submission the spankee gives or acknowledges to me.  I never spank on a whim and my wife always knows, either in the back of her mind or because it's obvious, that she deserves the spanking.  There is a TRUST between a Spanker and spankee that can't be duplicated in a "Vanilla"  relationship.  It's an intimacy shared that few couples share.  


My wife trusts that I'll spank her just enough and not go too far.  I trust her that when I say she needs a spanking she will submit to it. There's a bond there that's deeper than anyone can understand unless they are in that kind of relationship.


The other day I was outside in the backyard when my wife came out, walked up to me and gave me a huge hug.  It was the kind of hug that said, "I'm glad you're in my life."  It was a huge that I will never forget because it was a direct line.  She made a direct line from the sliding glass door to me.  It was as though, for that moment, I was the only thing on her mind and she had to get to me and let me know.


Like every couple we have our ups and downs but unlike every couple,..we have more!

Saturday, September 10, 2016

Have you ever?

Have you ever come home a bit earlier than you planned and found your house in disarray?  And then wanted to do this to the culprit to teach her a lesson?

   

Sunday, September 4, 2016

Back to spanking again!


My wife has had some health issues so I've let a lot of things pass that she would have otherwise been spanked for.


But the time has come for things to get back to normal.


Normal for us is her accepting that she needs to be spanked from time to time and that it's been awhile.  Normal is her accepting the fact that there have been many things she's gotten away with and that things need to get back to the way they should be.


I think I've been more than patient and I think she would agree.


I'm going to start giving her that look again.  The look that tells her it's time for a trip to the bedroom with her across my lap!


Thursday, March 27, 2014

The Fine Line between Abuser and Loving Disciplinarian!

As a spanker in a DD relationship I find my self walking this line between abuser or Loving Disciplinarian.  I believe I have a great deal of empathy for others and when I see a behavioral problem with those I have authority over I do a great deal of contemplating as to what would be the most effective way to correct the behavior.  

To me, it's not always a spanking.  I don't see myself as the ultimate judge and executioner for every behavioral problem my wife seems to have and then decide on a daily basis that a spanking is in order.  To always bring myself back to zero so I can weigh each situation clearly I recall my wife's thoughts and feelings on her getting spanked.  To paraphrase she doesn't like them but recognizes that for her they are necessary because she needs help to focus on things.  She gets all consumed with something and then everything else is left undone.  This wouldn't be a problem if it happened once or twice a week but with her it's literally a daily thing.  

I have no desire to hoard over my wife with a belt and seek out reasons to spank her.  However, I don't really need to seek out reasons because the reasons are all around me.  If I let them go too long then I get frustrated by what she's doing or not doing and then I'll throw my hands up and say, "I'll just do it myself so it gets done."  I do that because of that fine line.  But I am reminded that she understood full well that I'm a spanker and WE did agree there would be, and are, set rules.

Being firm and consistent isn't being hoarding and abusive so I've decided that's what needs to happen for awhile so she can get back to a productive schedule and be able to deal with drama, both small and large, and keep chaos down to a minimum.

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Do you give her want she wants or what she needs?


Most of us are caught up in giving our spouse what they want and we forget about those things they need.  Does your wife need a diamond ring bigger than most?  Does she need to have her own way most of the time?  Does she need to get away with things she shouldn't do?  Or does she need a good ol' fashion spanking.  Many times that's also what she wants.

Monday, March 3, 2014

A Spanking Novel by Ron Edwards

My wife would be the first to admit I have a very active imagination.  Over the years I've come up with a lot of ideas on a book that I've been wanting to write.  Of course it's about spanking but it's also part science fiction with true life events mixed in.  For those of you readers who might be interested in purchasing my book I've wondered if you'd rather buy it in short excerpts or buy the entire book at once.  I'd really like to hear from everyone having an opinion.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

The 'Christian' movement that tells husbands to SPANK their wives 'to correct misbehavior'

The 'Christian' movement that tells husbands to SPANK their wives 'to correct misbehavior'

By Ashley Collman
 
A growing number of married American couples are agreeing to allow husbands to keep their wives 'in line' by taking to corporal punishment.
The trend is called Christian Domestic Discipline and much of what is known about the practice is published on the website Learning Domestic Discipline, published by husband and wife CDD duo, Clint and Chelsea.
The website states: 'It is an arrangement between two adults who share the belief that the husband is the head of the household and with that position comes the right to enforce his authority.'
Clint and Chelsea have also written a 50-page packet on the practice called Beginning Domestic Discipline.
Manifesto: Learningdd.com is a source of a lot of information on the new painful Christian trend
Manifesto: Learningdd.com is a source of a lot of information on the new painful Christian trend

Discipline: In CDD, husbands spank their submissive wives in order to correct misbehavior
Discipline: In CDD, husbands spank their submissive wives in order to correct misbehavior
In the packet they describe CDD as a ‘practice between two consenting life partners in which the head of household (HoH) takes the necessary measures to achieve a healthy relationship dynamic.’ 
That translates to all methods of punishment, not exclusive to spanking. Clint and Chelsea advocate lecturing, removing privileges, corner and bedroom time – essentially the ways most people discipline their children.
For CDD enthusiasts, this type of punishment isn’t sexual in nature.
Vera (anonymous last name),  who is in a CDD relationship with her husband told The Daily Beast that the practice is in no-way sexual.
'The pure CDD people don't go there. A lot of folks think of Fifty Shades of Grey - but this is not that.’
Spanking is clearly the bread and butter of this kind of relationship. Eighteen pages of the CDD manifesto are dedicated to spanking and how to properly go about administering spanks.
Tools: A hairbrush is one of the listed items sanctioned for spanking on in the Beginning Domestic Discipline packet
Tools: A hairbrush is one of the listed items sanctioned for spanking on in the Beginning Domestic Discipline packet

Paddle: A wooden spoon is another spanking tool. In the packet, Clint and Chelsea warn that one of the cons with this tool is that it 'can break easily'
Paddle: A wooden spoon is another spanking tool. In the packet, Clint and Chelsea warn that one of the cons with this tool is that it 'can break easily'
Clint and Chelsea talk about all aspects of spanking such as the ‘awkward’ first spanking, the various tools that can be used to administer the spankings, what position the wife should be in and the pros and cons of spanking over or under clothing. 
Corporal punishment at home obviously leads to questions about whether or not this is domestic abuse. Clint and Chelsea stress in their packet that CDD should only practiced by consenting adults and that the HoH should never punish while angry.
‘If the HoH becomes angry, they must do whatever it takes to get themselves back to a calm, reasonable, rational, level-headed, and collected state before making any decision or carrying out any punishment.’
But as evidenced on many forums dedicated to CDD, the practice has turned violent in cases.
‘I wanted the spankings to stop and my husband told me it was either DD and marriage or divorce. I chose divorce. I couldn't handle the pain of spankings anymore, emotionally or physically,’ a woman named Michelle wrote on a popular CDD blog found in reporting by The Daily Beast.
What’s scarier is how little fear is expressed in these forums.
XOJane writer Laura Rubino investigated the issue and trolled the internet looking for horror stories but was surprised when she ‘didn’t find as many of those as I was expecting to.’
 
'Most of the women who write about their CDD experiences online are not complaining. Many of them report feeling extremely calm and relaxed after being disciplined, and believe it is an expression of their husband caring about them and their marriage, enough to help them modify their behavior,’ Rubino said.
The punishment, Rubino said, offers these women a clean slate and they don’t have to worry about passive aggressive tension after a fight.
While many of these women rave about CDD, it’s not something that Rubino would voluntarily sign herself up for.
‘Walking around my own home, conscious of the fact that any perceived transgression could result in physical pain and a surrendering of control of my body? That would stress me the f*** out. I don't find that sexy at all. Scary, yes. Hot? Not so much.'
Jim Alsdurf, a forensic psychologist who has written a book on abuse in Christian homes, agrees. 
‘No fool in his right mind would but this as a legitimate way to have a relationship. A relationship that infantilizes a woman is one that clearly draws a more pathological group of people.’
Even conservative Christians aren’t behind this trend. Radio host Bryan Fisher told The Huffington Post that he finds no basis in Christianity for such a relationship. He described the trend as ‘horrifying,’ ‘ bizarre,’ ‘unbiblical’ and ’un-Christian’.
'God in the New Testament clearly asks wives to arrange themselves under the leadership of their husbands (in Greek, the word 'submit' means 'to arrange under.') But there is no place where husbands are instructed to make their wives do it or punish them if they don't.'

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2346393/The-Christian-movement-tells-husbands-SPANK-wives-correct-misbehavior.html#ixzz2uR2BC6HF
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Friday, February 21, 2014

So far I like what I've read about this site!

From www.humbledfemales.net

Humbled Females teaches the virtue of female submission to those who are so inclined to pursue this path. We believe such females are best suited as loving, caring, and servile counterparts to their men.

We believe in the good in a man, and the potential within him to be a strong source of guidance, discipline, leadership, and protection for a woman. We are committed to exemplifying the excellence of the ideal male archetype, giving honor and dignity back to the male sex, particularly in a surrounding culture that often attempts to marginalize it.

Humbled Females is a safe haven for submissive women who are driven by fantasies of complete subjugation to their alpha male ideal. To that end, we choose to explore how the innate drive for submission to male authority in the female reveals the core of her animal nature, and how best it can be refined as a path for her own carnal and spiritual attunement, a path often enshrouded in the contemporary West’s new directives for the sexes. We believe dependence upon and submission to a man is not degrading, but attractive to the true essence of femininity.

Humbled Females is for women who serve their male counterparts consensually with lucid desire and passion. We are devoted to providing literary resources, observation exercises, and further inspiration in refining the female mind toward improved service, loving obedience, and the essence of femininity, which we believe at its heart is yielding, respectful, gentle, and pliant.

We do not believe a woman who lives this way is flawed. While we respect the rights of others to live differently, we do not see the submissive female as inadequate, insufficient, unsound, or out of touch, as many of her contemporary sisters often do. We see a woman who serves her man as a return to the wisdom of her symbiotic animal nature, unclouded by modern assertions that she should do otherwise.

We believe in helping men learn what dominance truly is. We reject the condescending attitudes about maleness culture tends to sell to young men and women and work to dissect the mythology of male power (and weakness) in society today, so as to build a foundation of awareness, nobility, and character in men that is reality-based and free of misandrous propaganda.

While feminism and female submission are not necessarily exclusive, we certainly do avoid the influence of radical feminism, working through numerous manifestations, to unseat/degrade the masculine. We reject influences of socially fashionable male bashing, believing the desire for social equality is good, but demeaning the male sex to achieve that goal is ignoble and harms both men and women.

We celebrate the sexual force between male and female, and while we believe the erotic is the natural medium through which male and female bond, submission is not only about the flesh. We feel the aspects of emotion, intellect and spirit in submission are equally important if one aims to be submissive in the truest sense of the word.

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Being Dominant!


For me, being dominant isn't really a matter of choice, it's simply part of who I am.  I'm also sensitive, caring, loving, artistic, philanthropic and so much more.  All of us have many sides or parts that make up who we are.


For me, being dominant isn't being domineering either.  My father was domineering and that led to an unhealthy fear of him.  My dominance is more benevolent. 


I've met a lot of dominant men throughout my life who were far more domineering in the unhealthy sense than in the benevolent.  Those who dominate through fear do so because they seek control.  In part to control others but more so to have control in their lives.  The truth is that their lives are more out of control and the more out of control the more domineering they are to others.


My dominant personality is centered more on equalizing moments of life than it is in controlling anyone.  My wife, for example, has an unbalanced life.  She gets caught up in the moment and before she realizes it that moment has turned into hours.  The result is that she spent a lot of time on one thing and no time on other things that should have been given her attention.


What helps her a great deal is the reminder that she needs to spread out her time and do other things and not just focus all her attention on the one thing.  Her reminder is a good sound spanking.  It reminds her before the spanking by thinking about what she did or didn't do that got her to the point of the spanking.  It reminds her as she's getting spanked when I bring up what she failed to do as I'm spanking her.  It reminds her after the spanking when she sits down and she things about how she could have avoided the spanking if she would have simply completed other tasks rather than let them go.


Being dominant means a following through with what needs to be done too.  For me it's only natural that I'm dominant and my wife is submissive to me.  That is how she sees it too.  If we were both dominant our life together wouldn't work and if we were both submissive that couldn't work either.  For me being dominant is like breathing.

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