Monday, March 31, 2014
Friday, March 28, 2014
Thursday, March 27, 2014
The Fine Line between Abuser and Loving Disciplinarian!
As a spanker in a DD relationship I find my self walking this line between abuser or Loving Disciplinarian. I believe I have a great deal of empathy for others and when I see a behavioral problem with those I have authority over I do a great deal of contemplating as to what would be the most effective way to correct the behavior.
To me, it's not always a spanking. I don't see myself as the ultimate judge and executioner for every behavioral problem my wife seems to have and then decide on a daily basis that a spanking is in order. To always bring myself back to zero so I can weigh each situation clearly I recall my wife's thoughts and feelings on her getting spanked. To paraphrase she doesn't like them but recognizes that for her they are necessary because she needs help to focus on things. She gets all consumed with something and then everything else is left undone. This wouldn't be a problem if it happened once or twice a week but with her it's literally a daily thing.
I have no desire to hoard over my wife with a belt and seek out reasons to spank her. However, I don't really need to seek out reasons because the reasons are all around me. If I let them go too long then I get frustrated by what she's doing or not doing and then I'll throw my hands up and say, "I'll just do it myself so it gets done." I do that because of that fine line. But I am reminded that she understood full well that I'm a spanker and WE did agree there would be, and are, set rules.
Being firm and consistent isn't being hoarding and abusive so I've decided that's what needs to happen for awhile so she can get back to a productive schedule and be able to deal with drama, both small and large, and keep chaos down to a minimum.
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Friday, March 21, 2014
Friday, March 14, 2014
Thursday, March 13, 2014
Do you give her want she wants or what she needs?
Most of us are caught up in giving our spouse what they want and we forget about those things they need. Does your wife need a diamond ring bigger than most? Does she need to have her own way most of the time? Does she need to get away with things she shouldn't do? Or does she need a good ol' fashion spanking. Many times that's also what she wants.
Friday, March 7, 2014
Monday, March 3, 2014
A Spanking Novel by Ron Edwards
My wife would be the first to admit I have a very active imagination. Over the years I've come up with a lot of ideas on a book that I've been wanting to write. Of course it's about spanking but it's also part science fiction with true life events mixed in. For those of you readers who might be interested in purchasing my book I've wondered if you'd rather buy it in short excerpts or buy the entire book at once. I'd really like to hear from everyone having an opinion.
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