Into Spanking?

Some years ago, before the internet, texting and even before the average person had a cell phone dating was a bit different in many respects.  Today if you have "kinky" tendencies you can go to a variety of sites and seek out someone who thinks and feels the same way.  Back in my early years of dating it was next to impossible to find out if the woman you were dating or wanting to date was into spanking or not.  You would learn different ways of finding out, eventually, but that process was sometimes long and arduous.

There were a few women who I dated and expressed my feelings regarding spanking.  Their reactions were very similar in that they felt that because they weren't into spanking, whether DD, HOH or just for play, that I could just push an "off" button and not be into spanking myself.  Boy were they wrong.  And the few times I tried doing just that, turning off the spanking button, I found out I was wrong too.

The fact is that you can't force a spanking on anyone who doesn't want one, I mean really you can't.  I recently gave a butt blistering spanking to a submissive, which I filmed, who had some interesting things to say about spanking.  She likes being spanked, and soundly, for a variety of reasons I won't go into and when I told her my wife gets spanked because we're in a DD, HOH relationship but she, my wife, isn't INTO spanking she laughed and said, "On, she's into spanking or you wouldn't be able to spank her."

It took a few days for that to sink in and register but I've come to realize that she was right.  My wife isn't into spanking when it comes to the pain of getting her bottom bared and spanked.  She's into spanking in regard to submitting to my authority and being punished for something she didn't do or did do and wasn't suppose to.  If I tell her in the morning she's going to get spanked she dreads the rest of the day until she gets spanked so I now bring it up 30 minutes or so before so she doesn't go through the anxiety.  If she wasn't into spanking there is no way I would be able to spank her.  I doubt 5 grown men could pin her down and spank her against her will.

And that's what it really comes down to is her free will to submit.  It's noticeable to me, after every spanking she's gotten, that there's a change in her attitude.  It isn't an "I'll just got my bottom blistered and I hate you," attitude.  It's more of a "Thank you for being a man and HOH and giving me what I needed," attitude.  In many ways it's an affirmation that I still love her and care about and for her.  I love my wife for so many reasons and her spankings are icing on the cake for me on so many levels.      

How to spank your wife!

First, I'll assume that you and your wife have an understanding regarding you spanking her.  That understanding would be that she willingly submits to your authority over her and accepts spanking as a way of correcting her behavior.

Second, you must establish basic rules that she is to follow.  It's best that she picks the first ones.  That way she can't come back and say, "That's not far."  Then you pick rules that you want her to follow.  Start out easy and don't overload with insignificant rules like, she must wear yellow on Tuesdays.

  
It doesn't take much for me to get my wife across my lap.  For the most part all I have to do is nod or point to our bedroom, as I give her that look and she knows to head there fairly quick.  90% of the time she already knows she's in for a spanking but there are a few times she's caught by surprise.

When she knows before hand that a spanking's coming and I point to our bedroom she usually has everything off from the waist down by the time I get in there.  That's smart because she knows that if she doesn't the spanking will be harder or longer or both.

The key is from start to finish.  That is I start out with sound smacks to her ALWAYS bare bottom and I keep the same impact and rhythm until it's over.  She doesn't like it one bit but if she didn't get the spanking two things would happen.  One, she'd lose respect for me and two she'd feel guilty about getting away with something she knew she shouldn't have done, or should have done.

   
My wife is one of the finest women I've ever had the pleasure to know.  She has a high degree of integrity and her submissiveness to me is natural and true.  It's no game for her.  We laugh everyday, even those days when I turn her bottom red.  The reason is because with a spanking, it's over.  There's no pouting and being grumpy around the house because I'm upset with her.  I've taken care of it.  She's accepted it with grace and now we move on.

She would never think of putting her hands behind her to protect her bottom either.  No matter how long her spankings have been she has always seen it through to the end.

There have been many times right after her spanking when I've taken her from behind and starting making love to her.  She has even been sniffling and crying as I go deep inside her.  The whole experience of her willingly submitting to a spanking she admits she deserves fills me with passion.  I'm the instrument of her sour flaming bottom and soon after I'm inside her, as she is on her knees with her red bottom sticking up high and her head buried in our mattress, I become the instrument of her excitement and passion.   She likes to be taken.  It makes her feel like a wanted woman.

It doesn't take long for her sniffling and cries to change to moans and groans.  The view of her very red bottom, her long flowing her laid out wildly on the bed, the way she grabs and the sheets and holds on with each thrust gives me reason to pound deep.  When she's properly shaved her pussy is more sensitive to the pounding of my balls and the spanking she just received won't come back to her mind until later when she sits down.

That's how to spank your wife!  

  

Just a mention is all it takes!

So I'm at work today and get a couple of long texts from my wife explaining what she had planned for this afternoon and evening.  I was in the middle of something and couldn't write back much so I wrote something like, "I'm sure some things in the back yard will be picked up too."

When I got home she said that when she got that text she thought some of the other things on her list could wait and decided to do what I mentioned in my text.  I sure do love her.  And she's beginning to learn what it takes to get out of getting spanked too.

Texting and Driving

So I'm driving home from work and the person in front of me is going way under the speed limit and I can't get around them.  I knew they were either talking on the phone or texting.  We get up to a light and the pull into the turning lane and sure enough she's texting away.  You can't fully imagine how I wanted to motion for her to pull over in the next available ally so I could blister her bottom.  It wasn't that she was in front of me and in my way but that she was a hazard waiting to happen.

Painting Her Bottom with a Nice Red Glow!

So my wife and I had a little talk regarding her not following through with doing what she said she would do, which was painting a newly built wall.  She admitted that she, of her own free will, volunteered to do the job.  She confessed that I wanted it done within a certain time frame and that she agreed she could do that.  

So here it was Saturday around 1pm and she was about to go run another errand which was to take an additional 2 hours of her time.  So into the bedroom we went and this time straight from her bath.  As she placed herself across my lap she explained, "I'll get it done when I get back, I promise."  My reply, as I began doing my own style of painting which turns her white behind to a nice Red, was, "Oh I know you'll be keeping that promise!"

When she returned home she put on old cloths, got the paint, brushes and rollers out and began what she kept putting off.  In the end, pardon the pun, she did a GREAT job.  What a difference a spanking makes.

The End

So you were asked,..

So you were asked, the you being a submissive, to do something that wasn't at all hard to do and was right up your ally.  You said, "Yes I can do that."  

So I reply, "Can you get it done this week?"

Your answer, "I can do it Wednesday and Thursday."

I then respond with, "Are you sure?  It needs to get done because there are other things to do also.

Your reply, "I can get it done."

So, today is Thursday and it wasn't started yesterday, Wednesday, and it certainly wasn't started today either.  That means not only was it not finished by Thursday but it hasn't even been started.

This is a recurring theme and it seems a good spanking is the only way to change it.  What do you think?  Does my wife have a trip coming across my lap? 

Where's the beef spanking

One of the things my wife would admit she gives a reasonable amount of effort doing is "misdirection" in regard to her bottom getting spanked.

She knew a spanking was coming when I got home yesterday from work for her attitude and lack of concern toward preparing dinner the evening before.  So when I walked through the door I could clearly see the living room was picked up and vacuumed.  I could hear the laundry going and there she was in the kitchen putting dishes in the dishwasher too.  Those were things that needed to be done but the fact they were all being done at that time is part of her misdirection.  She figured that I would be happy to see what had gotten done and what was being done around the house so I'd forgive, or forget, what needed to happen regarding her spanking.

There have been plenty of times when I've fixed dinner for myself after work.  All of them have been good reasons and I had little to know problem with doing that.  It was a problem Thursday evening because I was just told that she was going to the store because there was a sale.  She didn't mention anything about bringing home a pizza, or fixing dinner when she got home, or me fixing dinner myself.  So when I sent her a text about when she'd home and did she plan on dinner she seemed unconcerned.  It's not that I'm helpless it's that I work all day and it is her job to prepare dinner, or make arrangements for dinner, not mine.

So when I got home Friday after work to find her loading the dishwasher I made it quick with I'll see you in our bed room.  There was no trying to get out of it as I followed her into the room.  I sat down on the edge of the bed as she pulled down and off her pants and panties and then she put herself across my lap.  It's not like this hasn't happened before either, not having dinner ready or planned.  She knows that if she's spanked for something then she'll stay on top of it.  If she's not spanked then she knows she'll continue pushing the limits.  Truth is she likes a man to put his foot down and say, "That's it, no more."  Putting my foot down means making her bottom red but she respects that and if she didn't then she wouldn't willfully put herself across my lap after striping from the waist down. 

I forgot to mention that her submissiveness and obedience to her spanking aroused me so much that after the hugs and kisses, that always follow her spankings, we made love with her red as up in the air and her moaning like she didn't want the sex to stop.

Where's the beef?

Kitchen tables serve a multitude of purposes, not to mention eating food on.  Last night my wife decided to go shopping before fixing dinner and got home far too late for two things.  First, she got home too late to fix dinner and two, she got home too late to be placed over the kitchen table to get her bottom blistered.  It wasn't so much that dinner hadn't been made but her attitude in a text that read, "Poor baby."

Well we'll see how her attitude is when I get home after work today.

Spanking your wife vs. Hitting your wife

There are those who would say that spanking is hitting.  I totally disagree with that idea.  I can't imagine hitting with my fist or slapping someone.  I could do that in self defense if I had to but I couldn't conscienceless hit someone out of anger.  Perhaps that's where people are confused about spanking?

To me spanking isn't out of anger and I don't spank to release any anger.  I am human and I do get angry from time to time but I never use spanking as a way to release anger.

When it comes time for her spanking my wife knows she deserves it.  She doesn't jump for joy about it but knows she has it coming.  Left on her own she knows she wouldn't get certain things done.  Spankings are her incentive, or perhaps not getting the spanking is her incentive.  I'm not perfect so I don't expect her to be either.  Her conscience will tell her that this or that should be done or cleaned up and many times it's not a thought of "I'll get spanked" but simply that it needs to be done.  From time to time she will recognize that she's not getting something done and she simply needs incentive.

Spanking to us is simply part of "love" to us.  That may be hard for the rest of the screwed up world to understand but not to us.

Happy Birthday!

Today is my wife's birthday!  Last night she was doing some touch up painting on our Garage Sale sign and as she was painting she commented, "I just remembered you told me to get this sign ready for this Saturday and that was a week or so ago.  I realized I'd better get on this or tomorrow I'd be getting a "REAL" birthday spanking!"

I'd like to say "Happy Birthday" to my wife and let her know she's the best thing that's happened in my life for some time.  In regard to spanking it's not that she accepts her spankings but it's also the mere fact that we can simply talk about spanking and neither of us feel strange about it.  It's a part of our life.

Again, "Happy Birthday" and your birthday spanking is just going to be a "fun" spanking!

The Palms Seattle tonight!

Tonight my wife and I will be attending "The Palms Seattle" monthly event in Seattle.  My wife seems very excited to attend the group get together.  We both feel we may have more in common with others who attend because it's, as they put in on their web site;

 

What are we? An adults-only spanking group. Mostly male top/female bottom, though we do have a few switches.  We think of ourselves as  a "female friendly" spanking group. What this means is that we want to go out of our way to make female members, particularly new ones, as comfortable as possible. Women are  more hesitant to attend functions and reply to ads than men are. What we strive for is to make any curious females as comfortable as possible on a social level, and then let her proceed within the spanking community at her own pace and comfort level. We welcome complete newbies to the scene and seasoned players equally. This is in no way meant to disrespect the males in the group- without you we wouldn't have a group! 

Please look around the site and read the different forums to determine if you think this group is for you. The web site is updated on a very regular basis, so check it frequently.

What are we not? A BDSM group. So if you are more into a BDSM lifestyle, this group is probably not for you. But if you are completely enchanted with the idea of going across a top's lap for some well deserved punishment, or standing a very naughty lady in the corner as you bring out your implements, all the while scolding her as she stands there, bottom bared, dreading and anticipating at the same time, then read on.

We are almost strictly a male top/ female bottom group, though exceptions can always be made. Switches are welcome. Male/male scenarios are not.

Great Job!

I'd have to say that the kitchen table and living room were perfect and far exceeded my expectations for clean when I got home from work yesterday.  My wife did a great job.  Now the key is to keep it that way.  What happens is someone puts something down and leaves it and then a little more each day the piles creep up and before you know it there's a substantial mess.  So cheeks were spared yesterday and life is good.

I've been MORE than patient!

I have been more than patient with my wife but that has ended.  I expect the kitchen table to be cleared and clean, the kitchen cleaned and the living spotless when I get home tonight.  If they're not then she might as well be in the bedroom ready for a more than good ol' fashion spanking, a butt burner!

A little more about Me

Doris Day's bottom from "Teacher's Pet"

I was born during in the worst recession since WWII, the average cost of a house was $12,750, the average rent was $92 a month, gas was 25 cents a gallon, a first class postage stamp was 4 cents, minimum wage was $1 hour and men were men and women were glad they were.

Those times weren't perfect of course.  No time in history has been perfect and that's a fact.  I recall knowing a few kids who's parents were divorced and that's it.  Back then 99% of the kids I grew up with had parents who weren't divorced and if they were being raised by a single parent it was most likely because their father or mother had died.

I don't recall any of us kids being worried about strangers grabbing us off the play grounds or even hearing about it on the news.  Times really were different back then.

I recall going to a private school that used corporal punishment as one method of discipline.  To offset tuition my parents and I, mostly my mom and I, cleaned the small school as I recall 3 times a week.  I remember one afternoon my mom was running late and instead of cleaning I got curious and started looking around the school.  There were classrooms I'd never been in and wanted to check them out.

I was just about to open double doors that went into the higher grade part of the school when I heard the distinctive sound of smacks.  They seemed to bounce off every wall and it was hard to pin point were the smacks were coming from but it was definitely flesh on flesh, so to speak.  It wasn't long into the smacks that the crying began and I could tell it was a female who was getting spanked.

The spanking went on for a few minutes and from what I recall there was no scolding or pleas from the spankee to stop.  When the spanking finally ended and there was only crying one of the male teachers at the school left the room and headed down the hall.  It wasn't a long hall way and it didn't take long before he had grabbed his suitcase and was locking the door behind him.  About the same time he got to the classroom door that he had come out of it opened and out stepped his wife who was also a teacher there at the school.

After giving him a hug and them both walking down the small set of stares to leave the building it hadn't occurred to me yet that she was the one getting the spanking.

I can't begin to explain how I felt that day.  I think I was 12 or 13 and even though I didn't see anything I was hard as a rock.  The sounds and visual image of her getting spanked had stirred up an excitement I'd never felt before.

After that event I began noticing spankings going on in the world far more than I ever thought.  It was in the movies with John Wayne and other actors too.  It wasn't long, I recall, that I saw spanking as more or less normal.  What I didn't think was normal at all was getting sexually aroused by it.  I mean I didn't just get hard I got ROCK hard.  I could view pictures in say "Playboy" and I'd get aroused but if I viewed the same pictures and fantasized I was spanking them, or going to, I'd get even more aroused.

Time Warp recalls spanking memories

I was clicking through channels looking for something to watch when I came upon a channel that shows mostly T.V. shows from the 60's and 70's and man what a Time Warp.  So I started doing a search of T.V. shows I used to watch back then like "That Girl".

an "Here comes the Bride"

"Bewitched"

"I Dream of Jeannie"

"Gilligan's Island"

"Gidget"

"Brady Bunch" and the list goes on and on.  One BIG reoccurring  theme was cut girls who seemed to get into some kind of trouble and needed there naughty bottoms spanked.  So many of those girls could do the "Pout" look so well.  Bewitched, That Girl, I Dream of Jeannie could give that look of "I'm getting spanked aren't I?"

Not much has changed from those days.  I still see that look from my wife.  To me it's pretty adorable.

 

The World is going Crazy!

So I get up pretty early every morning, fix my coffee and then turn on the news.  This morning the top story is that a gunman has opened fire at a movie theater in Aurora, Co during a Batman movie.  50 injured and 14 have died so far.  WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!

How do people decide they HATE so much that they make a plan to go into a movie theater and set off gas and start shooting?  There are those who think that I'm strange because I spank my wife.  Compared to what's going on with gunman like the Aurora shooting I'm normal.

Brand New Roof Saved Her House!

Apparently a few weeks before the fire hit Colorado Springs my wife's sister had a brand new roof put on her house.  It was fortunately flame resistant or fire proof and didn't allow embers from the sounding flames to take hold and start burning.  Meanwhile there are many families who have lost their homes completely.  Please continue to keep the victims of the Colorado Springs residents in your thoughts and prayers.  If you can help through the RED CROSS please do what you feel lead to.

Colorado Springs Fire too close to home!

It's scary to watch something like a wild fire taking place a thousand miles away but when you get a call from a family member that they're having to evacuate their home because the fires are almost in their back yard it becomes something totally different.  That's the call my wife got from her sister yesterday and it's been the only thing on our mind all evening.  I simply can't imagine having to walk, I mean run, from my home with the idea that the next time I come back it could be burned to the ground.  Please keep everyone there in your thoughts and prayers.

The path!

Getting things done but neglecting other things seems to be the constant path with my wife lately.  She reads this blog when ever I post so this is "Fair warning" that there are things that need to get done that have been neglected.  If they're not attended to the above color is what her bottom is going to be, and soon!

Dinner by 5:30!

In order for me and those I work with to have Monday off last week, Memorial Day, we agreed to work 10 hour days Tuesday through Friday.  That meant leaving for work at 4am and coming home around 4:30pm.  So that would give me just enough time to take a shower and chill a bit before sitting down to eat which I wanted ready by 5:30.  That way I could eat and relax with the family a bit until I go to bed at 7pm.

Well Tuesday night dinner was ready at about 5:45 so I didn't fuss all that much about it but Wednesday it wasn't ready until 6.  So I suggested to the girls that if dinner wasn't ready by at least 5:30 the rest of the week sitting might not be an option.  Guest what?  The following day and the day after that dinner was ready before 5:30.

The above picture is my wife working on cutting back some on a tree in our yard.  She's getting a lot done in the yard but still lacks focus to work on other things she needs to attend to.