Happy New Year 2013

A new rule for my wife.

For some time now she's been complaining about putting on weight so,..  I'm making a new rule for 2013 for two reasons.  One, we're paying for a gym membership that she hasn't used in months and two, this will give her incentive to use the membership.  So, to start out slow she needs to use the gym once a week or she gets spanked.

Merry Christmas!

When I say no, I mean NO!

Coming home to find the Christmas tree being decorated by a sexy Mrs. Claus is great but when you find out that she plans on going to a retirement home dressed like that it's not good at all,..for her.

Then to top it off she actually looks at me and says, "I'm going to go!"

That's when you grab a bench and even if the window shade is up you put her across your lap and start teaching her to NOT talk back.

That seems to be a constant problem for Holly so after her first OTK she goes to her knees and begins to please but using her lips for something more productive than talking back.

It's always important to maintain control so no matter how well she pleases her bottom must still turn the desired red I like to see.

I had a Ho, ho, ho and merry ol' time with teaching Holly that talking back to me is never a good idea.

What are we becoming?

I recall sitting in class, when I was in grade school, day dreaming about the world that was out there to explore.  America was on its way to the moon and no one thought for a second that 40 plus years later gun carrying mad men would be going into shopping malls, movie theaters, churches and schools to kill innocent bystanders who never did a thing to them except be in the line of fire when they shot.

I have seen this decline happening for some time now.  People blame video came companies, anti gun advocates blame it on guns and gun control, and the list of who to blame goes on and on.  I don't pretend or believe I have ALL the answers to life's problems but I do now one thing.  If we don't teach BOUNDARIES then our children grow up without any, period!

We can debate this on and on.  We can say it's one thing and someone else will say it's something else.  I see a plethora of things that have lead to this end result but I'm afraid we've gone too far to turn back the clock now.  Now, the only thing we can do to stop this craziness is to teach boundaries and most importantly LOVE.

People don't seem to realize that the two are strongly connected.  You don't teach boundaries because you DON'T love but because you do LOVE.  I also have seen, over the years, parents pawn their children off to others to raise.  I'm not talking sending them to daycare because a parent has to work.  I'm talking parents going to work to get away from their kids.  Seriously!  Tell me you haven't heard this from someone you've worked with.  "Oh, I don't work because I have to or need to.  I work to get away from my kids."  I can't begin to tell you how often I've heard this throughout my life.

Well guess what.  Someone else is raising our children.  Violent games,

the news showing rich bratty girls who get into serious trouble and get away with it.

There seriously was a time when parents put their foot down and their kids stopped in their tracks.  Parents aren't suppose to be "friends" with their children.  Their suppose to be PARENTS.  The friend part comes after they've been raised and are adults.

Spanked for Sexting!

What do you do with a daughter who sends a text with naked pictures of herself to her boyfriend, but instead she sends it to her mother.

I put her across my lap and give her behind a good sound spanking.

Girls today get away with far too much and sexting is NOT something I'm letting LeAnne get away with.

Spanking her bare bottom in a variety of positions also helps drive the message home too.

LeAnne is learning that the palm of my hand was made for spanking.

Leaving without the ability to sit truly makes its mark in more ways than one.

I am beginning to think that even though she doesn't like the spanking, as it's taking place, she likes how it feels afterward.

Spank Her 4 Real Videos

Amy gets her spanking!

By now I'm sure many of you have seen this already but I want to share it anyway.

Something to share!

I liked these so I thought I'd share.

When should I spank my wife?

A question often asked is, "When should I spank my wife?"  My obvious answer is, "When she needs it."  My wife can tell by my tone and look that a certain thing is getting out of hand and a change needs to take place.  I'm finding that when that happens it gets taken care of pretty quick.

There are those times however when she hears the tone and sees the look but then something happens that distracts her and it gets put off.   I give her time to work on certain things that need attention but if she allows herself to get more and more distracted then a nice red bottom seems to always put her back on track.

So, when should you spank your wife.  You should spank your wife when she needs to be spanked.  If you've given her a reasonable amount of time to get done what she needs to get done and she hasn't done it then she needs a spanking. 

Learning to Obey!

I'm not sure why learning to obey is such a hard thing for a submissive to do.  No one is perfect and I don't by any means expect anything close to perfection.  What I do expect, like other REAL Alpha Males who would be called "Dom's" is an honest effort.

My wife will obey to avoid getting spanked.  However, when she gets side tracked and isn't obeying she recognizes a good spanking is healthy for her but by no mean enjoyable.

Holly, on the other hand, has the same attitude but also finds pleasure from being put in her place by a man who does it benevolently.  Holly wants to obey but also wants to be punished because she is aroused by it.

Yesterday I suggested that we concentrate cleaning and arranging a room that was beginning to become a "catch all" for just about everything.  My wife got the feeling that if it wasn't done she'd be looking at the floor while bent over my lap and I could tell it wasn't a view she wanted to re-experience.  So, we had a very productive day with shampooing the rug, arranging and just plain putting things where they should go.  Everyone is pleased with the progress.

Holly, on the other hand, is pleased but showed a bit of procrastination.  Not to mention doing some pouting along the way.  An excellent training method for pouting is her lips around my cock and that's right where they went.  However, she like most submissives, likes her lips around a hard cock so to make it more of a method for disciplining there's a lot of pushing my cock in as far as I can go so she gags.  After doing that for a time the pouting stopped and the right responses began to emerge from her mouth.

It's clear to me now that she will need a lot more training than I imagined.  She already understands that in our relationship she's more of a man toy but it's clear that there needs to be a lot more training in obeying like her sister.  I have a lot of ideas but if there are any readers who want to put in some suggestions and post them I'm open to reading them.      

Post Thanksgiving Spanking

I probably won't be posting tomorrow, Thanksgiving, so I'll take this opportunity to wish all of you a wonderful Thanksgiving.

I am suppose to have a young lady coming over Friday who needs some discipline in her life.  She's 21, still living at home and her mother's had enough.  So mom's bringing her over to have a "talk" with me and the plan is that there will be little talking if you know what I mean.

I'll let you know how that went if it actually takes place.  Til then have a wonderful and happy Thanksgiving!  

My wife's sister, Holly.

So I'm at home minding my own business when my sister-in-law comes in to talk to me about a conversation she had with my wife, her sister.

I've come to learn that the two of them had been discussing Holly getting spanked by me for some time now.  The saying, "Misery Loves Company" seems to be a true enough statement with my wife.  She's hinted how Holly has needed her sassy bottom dealt with through a good sound spanking.   

I've sensed from time to time an innocent flirtation coming from Holly but had never given much thought to it.  But after awhile, with my wife talking about her sister needing a good spanking and her throwing out ideas about how a poly household could be run, it was sinking in that something was under foot.

Getting Holly and I in a more intimate setting by spanking her was their way of beginning a poly relationship.  It turned out that Holly wants to be spanked for naughty behavior but also wants to be spanked because it turns her on.

Friday OTK again!

So once again I wake up to find a mired of things still not done that were suppose to be done.  A load of towels in the washer that had been in there for days and needing to be dry because we were out of towels.  A living room that needed to be picked up along with a variety of other neglected things.  Now mind you, all of these things were things I had been gently reminding my wife to do.  I got the same answer, "Oh, I know I'll finish that tonight," or "I plan on doing that first thing tomorrow."

So Friday morning I see none of those things done and headed to work.  All morning I was asking myself why she didn't do those things that would only take a few hours, if that, to do.  Why wait so long.  Then it hit me.  She gets things done when she doesn't get away with NOT getting things done.  When she gets spanked then she gets things done that she's suppose to.  When she doesn't do what she's suppose to do and a spanking doesn't happen then she feels she's gotten away with it and for some reason I'm not going to notice.

So, Friday around lunch I sent a text telling her a spanking was coming when I got home.  There was no, "For what?"  She already knew all of what it was for and simply replied, "Okay.  I had a feeling one might be on its way."  

Choices and Patterns

I'm pretty straight forward.  I get up almost the same time everyday, even without an alarm clock.  For the most part I go to bed the same time every night too.  I'd like to think I'm dependable.  

By now my wife knows that I'm dependable when it comes to spankings.  It's been chaos around here the past few months and it's just been one of those things.  There was a time when things that were beyond my control bothered me tremendously.  Today my attitude toward those things is, "It is what it is."

I really never need to convince my wife that she's in need, or deserves, or has earned a spanking.  In fact if I could read her mind the moment her panties hit the floor so she's bare from the waist down I would thinks she's thinking, "I can't believe I got away with it this long!"

She does make a failed attempt to offer logical reasons why something didn't get done but the simple fact that she's striped herself from the waist down and getting across my lap for a spanking shows that even she doesn't accept her reason or excuse. 

She knows that in the end the spanking will encourage her to get done what she's been unable to get done on her own.  In conclusion it's very interesting how much she pays attention to every word I speak regarding what hasn't gotten done and what needs to get done when she's "Bare Ass" across my lap.  I may start using that as a way of giving instructions on what needs to be done in the future.

Who knows, it might be that a females listen far better when there bottoms are bare and facing upward?

The hand that makes bottoms RED!

Thought I'd share a different picture!

Quiet time after a Spanking.

I do so enjoy her quiet time after her sound spanking!

Surrendering her "Will"!

Sunday mornings for me are waking up later than usual and reviewing new blogs and reading interviews.  I came across an interview a Fetlife profile of a female submissive who stated she didn't live the lifestyle 24/7 because she couldn't see anyone surrendering their "Will" to someone else.  So for her spanking was for role play.  That's fine with me.  I mean to each his/her own.  But, I think she misunderstands, at least in me and my wife's case, the surrendering of her "Will".

I wouldn't be in love with my wife if it wasn't for her unique and most colorful "Will".  She has never lost her free "Will" and I'll never even consider trying or wanting to change it.  She does what she wants when she wants and that's part of what makes her adorable. 

She doesn't surrender her will when she gets spanked.  Getting spanked for doing something she's not suppose to do or for something she didn't do is her free "Will".  Perhaps that's hard for some to wrap around their brain.  My wife knows what she should do and usually does it.  But there are those times she knows what she should do and doesn't do it.  Most of the time it's not outright rebellion it's that she chose NOT to do what she should have done.

My wife isn't a Masochist and isn't "turned on" by getting spanked.  She simply sees and knows the benefits that a spanking can have when it's correctly and justly given.  

"Does she have to obey?  And isn't that giving up free Will?"  I don't see how it is giving up her free Will when it is her "Will" to obey and get spanked when she doesn't obey.  Or when it's her free "Will" to get spanked when she fails to do those things that she knows she should.

And if it takes getting spanked to tears then so be it! 



All pictures are from Spank Her 4 Real Videos "Dad's Tools"

    

 

Butts, butts and no butts!

My last post was 9 days ago and perhaps a few of you have thought I fell off the planet.  The truth is that I have been a healthy admirer of one kind of butt and an unhealthy admirer of another.  

I started smoking when I was 18 and over the past year I can tell my body is slowing down.  It's been harder to get up in the mornings and physically at work it's been tougher too.  A little of the slowing is age I'm sure but I know the majority of my aches and pains have been due to smoking.

So around the first, which was my last post 9 days ago, I've been using patches and have smoked occasionally but not much.  That's made be irritable to say the least and with ADHD anyway my energy is coming back.

However, knowing that at this stage my perception may be a bit tainted I've been refraining from making judgements as to either giving my wife a basic spanking or a real butt blistering one.  I don't necessarily trust that I would be spanking her because of my withdrawal symptoms or because she really need one.

I'm not sure if she's using this time to get away with things that she otherwise would get spanked for but if she is now is a good time to get it out of her system. lol

Well, hopefully things will be back to normal, minus cigarettes, and I'll be posting again on a regular basis.  

Just a mention is all it takes!

So I'm at work today and get a couple of long texts from my wife explaining what she had planned for this afternoon and evening.  I was in the middle of something and couldn't write back much so I wrote something like, "I'm sure some things in the back yard will be picked up too."

When I got home she said that when she got that text she thought some of the other things on her list could wait and decided to do what I mentioned in my text.  I sure do love her.  And she's beginning to learn what it takes to get out of getting spanked too.

Texting and Driving

So I'm driving home from work and the person in front of me is going way under the speed limit and I can't get around them.  I knew they were either talking on the phone or texting.  We get up to a light and the pull into the turning lane and sure enough she's texting away.  You can't fully imagine how I wanted to motion for her to pull over in the next available ally so I could blister her bottom.  It wasn't that she was in front of me and in my way but that she was a hazard waiting to happen.

The desire to do myself

One of the main things I am always working on is to NOT masturbate.  The desire comes up daily and I have to tell myself that that's what my wife is for.  And I don't mean it in a negative way.  Her desire is to please me sexually whether it's a handjob, blowjob or me fucking her so it's hard for her to walk afterward.

I'm in control of that and need to simply tell her it's time.  If she's out watering the lawn when I get home from work then she wants me to point into the house to let her know I want her.  She's good a so many things but not when it comes to interpreting what I want sexually and when I want it.  So it's best for both of us for me to direct and instruct.  We both get satisfied and she doesn't have to go through the formidable task of trying to figure out the when and how.

Painting Her Bottom with a Nice Red Glow!

So my wife and I had a little talk regarding her not following through with doing what she said she would do, which was painting a newly built wall.  She admitted that she, of her own free will, volunteered to do the job.  She confessed that I wanted it done within a certain time frame and that she agreed she could do that.  

So here it was Saturday around 1pm and she was about to go run another errand which was to take an additional 2 hours of her time.  So into the bedroom we went and this time straight from her bath.  As she placed herself across my lap she explained, "I'll get it done when I get back, I promise."  My reply, as I began doing my own style of painting which turns her white behind to a nice Red, was, "Oh I know you'll be keeping that promise!"

When she returned home she put on old cloths, got the paint, brushes and rollers out and began what she kept putting off.  In the end, pardon the pun, she did a GREAT job.  What a difference a spanking makes.

The End