Sunday mornings for me are waking up later than usual and reviewing new blogs and reading interviews. I came across an interview a Fetlife profile of a female submissive who stated she didn't live the lifestyle 24/7 because she couldn't see anyone surrendering their "Will" to someone else. So for her spanking was for role play. That's fine with me. I mean to each his/her own. But, I think she misunderstands, at least in me and my wife's case, the surrendering of her "Will".
I wouldn't be in love with my wife if it wasn't for her unique and most colorful "Will". She has never lost her free "Will" and I'll never even consider trying or wanting to change it. She does what she wants when she wants and that's part of what makes her adorable.
She doesn't surrender her will when she gets spanked. Getting spanked for doing something she's not suppose to do or for something she didn't do is her free "Will". Perhaps that's hard for some to wrap around their brain. My wife knows what she should do and usually does it. But there are those times she knows what she should do and doesn't do it. Most of the time it's not outright rebellion it's that she chose NOT to do what she should have done.
My wife isn't a Masochist and isn't "turned on" by getting spanked. She simply sees and knows the benefits that a spanking can have when it's correctly and justly given.
"Does she have to obey? And isn't that giving up free Will?" I don't see how it is giving up her free Will when it is her "Will" to obey and get spanked when she doesn't obey. Or when it's her free "Will" to get spanked when she fails to do those things that she knows she should.
And if it takes getting spanked to tears then so be it!
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Most likely, the female quoted as saying "she didn't live the lifestyle 24/7 because she couldn't see anyone surrendering their 'Will' to someone else," was referring to a master/slave relationship rather than to domestic discipline.
ReplyDeleteDominance and submission are far more formalized in master/slave relationships than in domestic discipline. This truly is a lifestyle. On the other hand, domestic discipline is simply a tool used to promote domestic tranquility.
At the same time, any woman winding up over a man's lap is, temporarily at least, surrendering her "will" to that man. Where this not the case, absolute harmony would define the relationship. Spanking would never be necessary.
Here's the difference. A submissive female slave permanently relinquishes her "will" to her master in a master/slave relationship. In domestic discipline, the woman only surrenders her "will" temporarily and in a narrowly defined area. First, she surrenders her "will" to take a spanking that she neither enjoys nor wants. Second, by the time a disciplinary spanking is over, the woman usually agrees to do what the man wants her to do. After all, exercising her "will" is what got her spanked in the first place!
While I know relatively little about master/slave relationships, I know women in domestic discipline relationships imply being spanked makes them modify their choices, desires, or intentions. In other words, it changes their "will."
Some woman say spanking makes them submissive. Others have described the effect as coming to an agreement with their husbands on standards of behavior. Another common theme, usually uttered by professional women, is getting spanked makes them feminine again. As one female executive described being spanked by her husband, "It lets me know I'm not in charge of EVERYTHING!"