Spank or Not what do you think?

I had an appointment this morning, a class, that I had to get to at 7am.  My wife told me she knew where it was even though I asked her to check on the address, she said she didn't need to check because she already knew where it was.

So I woke her up at 6am so she could get up, get ready and we could leave in plenty of time so we weren't rushed.  On the way there I needed to pick up $10 in cash for a book that I would purchase in class, for the class.  So, now there was an extra stop.  

She figured it would take maybe 15 to 20 minutes to get there and that the bank was right next to it.   We left at 6:35, 20 minutes after I wanted to go, and got to the bank at about 10 min til 7.  But, the building she thought was the building I was to go to was not the building.  Now we don't know where it is.  

I scrambled to find the address and she plugged it into her the GPS and off we went, 5 miles away.  It's city traffic so we ended up getting to the class at about 5 min after 7, which to me is late. 

Now, I realize that I should have checked on the address myself to make sure, however, she was insistent that she knew where it was so I didn't check the location myself.  

So my question is, "Do you think she deserves a spanking?"  You can vote below by clicking "I agree" which means she gets spanked or "I disagree" which means she doesn't.  Or you can also leave your comment. 

I leave this one up to you to see whether she gets spanked or not.  Just so you know, or for your information, I will be pushing "I agree" right after I publish this post.

Weight loss

My wife did very well for her weight loss goal this month so no spanking was given.  

Except for some strong winds everything around here, weather wise, is pretty much back to normal.  Actually the wind around here is gone and the sky is clear.  Most of the snow in the backyard is gone but the front yard still has snow because it faces the North.

My wife's Diet Day!

Last month, to the day, my wife said she wanted to drop some weight.  It was her decision and her goal of a certain amount each month.  Well today is her weigh in day and we'll see how she's doing.  If she hasn't reached the goal that SHE set then over my lap she goes.

The Storm is over!

We it's over.  But not before the snow did some damage.  The picture above is the same tree as the picture below, after the snow and freeze.

The picture below is were the branches ended up.  Fortunately, no structures were damaged and the fence held up.  Instead of cutting up the branches I'm going to make them into a bench.  I'll take pictures of it when I'm finished.  Of course the branches need to dry so it will be a little while.

The picture below is why so many branches broke off trees.  First there was snow, then a little rain and humidity and then it all froze.  Throughout the night I could step out the front or back door and hear branches cracking and falling to the grown.  We live in a densely populated Evergreen tree area.

Now we hear that wind is on its way so we'll see how we weather out this next phase.

Snowday all day!

Back Yard Tree

Yesterday was a day to just stay inside and let it snow.  We got every inch of snow in one day that we usually get in a winter season.

Back Yard Trees

Fortunately the weather man was right on the mark and everyone around the Puget Sound Area was ready.  There were very few accidents because most everyone stayed home and didn't try getting to work, including me. 

Side Yard Trees

We walked to a local store and bought some $5 DVD's and watched them, put on the fire and generally laid around the whole day.

Front Yard Trees

Now everything is iced over and I'll have to see if I can make it to work now.  Wish me luck!

Spank Her 4 Real: Snow Days

Spank Her 4 Real: Snow Days: We don't usually get a lot, or much, snow where we live. This is our first snow fall for the winter and it started yesterday. The ...

Spanked again!

Once again I allowed my wife to slip on some things because last week she was experiencing some pretty severe headaches.  Those were over and done with Thursday and she mentioned herself how things needed to be picked up.  However, once again she kept putting it off until I got up Saturday morning and tripped on a cord that she had been told time and time again shouldn't be there.

 

Not to mention the pile of different items everywhere in the living room.  Again she gets focused on one thing and neglects almost everything else.

I've learned that I have to just be consistent with her.  This time it was a no holds bared bare bottom spanking.

Her bottom would be very red this time and having to drive to Seattle would be very uncomfortable.

She really hates to hear "Diaper position".  She makes a sigh and closes her eyes tightly.  With that position I can really make her bottom sting.

Afterward it's always a good idea to further put her in her place by giving me a handjob and blowjob and then finish it off with a good hard fucking.

Never Spank when You're Angry!

Anger is a legitimate emotion.  That is, it's okay to get angry, what's not okay is when anger turns into abuse or violence.  There are many people out there who can't control their anger.  When they get angry they become abusive.  After the abuse they will ALWAYS blame their anger on the person they've abused.  It's their cycle, or pattern.  

 

If my wife keeps doing something that's she knows she's not suppose to do, and keeps getting spanked for it, after awhile I tend to get frustrated.  There have been times when I give that "look" and she knows I'm upset, or angry, but I NEVER put her across my lap when I feel that way.  I've always got to walk-it-off so to speak.  I rationalize it over and over and think about what's causing her behavior.  Why isn't it sinking in?

99% of the time I discover that there's something else going on.  There's something distracting her and she's more focused on that than she is on not doing something she should.  If what she's been focusing on is a legitimate concern then I do give her slack.  If she's focusing on something that isn't legitimate then it's spanking time.

For example, she has this phone that pretty much does everything.  Someone showed her a "Bakery" application and another similar one and she got caught up in that to the point where she was neglecting things around the house.  It took a few spankings for her to watch how much time she spends on the app and she's getting better, but at times she still gets carried away.

 

There are other times when she hears bad news about someone in the family, or a friend, and it can put her off track.  I understand why she fails to get something done when there is that kind of interruption for her getting something done.

My point remains "Never Spank when you're angry".  If you have to walk away for a time, do it.  Find out what may really be going on.  Are you also angry because of something that happened to you that day and it really has little or nothing to do with your wife, or with what she's done or not done.

Spanking's come a long way!

I easily recall how much of a freak I felt I was back in the early 80's because of my attitude toward spanking.  Back then most guys talked about the size of a woman's breasts.  I was never a breast man, always have been a Butt man.  

Anyway, I drove a route back then and stopped in at an adult bookstore/Peepshow place in a small out of the way town that was on my route.  They had the 8mm booths in the back about 8 of them with different short clips in each.  This was before the internet, DVD's and even VHS tapes.  Low and behold there was a "Spanking" clip showing in one of the booths.  I got some quarters, went in to the booth and there it was, a spanking video.  I'd never seen one before.

 

This was extremely therapeutic for me at the time.  I no longer thought I was the only one in the universe that got hot and bothered when it came to spanking.  Shortly after that, maybe just a week, the Adult bookstore began changing over to VHS tapes.  So, they were getting rid of their 8mm projectors and the film that went with them.  Sure enough I bought a projector and that 8mm spanking video.  

 

It was mine, all mine and I watched it over and over and over again.  I no longer felt I was the only one.  It wasn't long after that I discovered Nu-West and their video tapes.  Then came the internet and finding and purchasing video clips and downloading them was great.

Some of the companies doing clips really get it wrong.  You can tell they are an adult video company trying to do spanking videos but they don't have the heart and soul of what spanking enthusiasts look for.  I often ask how they stay in business with spanking videos that are so bad and unrealistic.

Anyway, a book came out some years ago called "A different kind of Love".  At least I think that was the title?  In the book there was all kinds of interviews with spanking models, submissives and dominants in chapters covering spanking.  They had the same overall attitude and view about spanking as I had.  They weren't just models suffering through spankings in their videos.  They were real female submissives who liked and even loved getting spanked. 

There were so many others out there like me.  Folks who were Spankers and spankees.  For me it was a REAL life way of life and also fantasy in that I was aroused by spanking too.  Over the years I can easily separate the discipline spankings and the sexual arousal spankings.

The fantasy part of me would love to live in a town called "Spankersville" where husbands could put their wives across their lap ANYWHERE and give them what for.  But that's me.  If you've ever thought of that kind of town let me know and leave a comment. 

Shaving down there

When my wife and I first got together and I began telling her what I liked and didn't like I made it clear that I liked her shaved.  It was the first time she had been asked, or told, to do such a thing.  From the time I told her I wanted her shaved to the time I discovered she hadn't yet shaved was perhaps 4 or 5 days.

I walked into her place and one of the first things I inquired about, after our hugs and kisses, was if she had been good and done what I told her to do.  I could see her mind racing as she tried to remember what it was that she may have forgotten.  She proudly walked me into the kitchen to show me how clean and organized it was but that wasn't it.  Although I was pleased to see the kitchen that way.

I asked, "Are you shaved?"

"Shaved?" she replied with a concerned question in her voice.

"Yes, shaved.  I told you I wanted you shaved.  Remember?" I said instantly.  Now her reply was actually a new to me and I couldn't believe my ears when she replied, "Oh I remember, but you didn't say when I was to shave, just that you wanted me shaved."  Now she was actually most serious.  It was as though she was thinking, "He wants me to shave but because he didn't say Now, Tomorrow or Next week I have all the time in the world to meet his request or demand."

As I sat down I almost started to laugh but didn't.  Here is a woman with above average intelligence trying to tell or convince me, that wanting her shaved could have meant 3 months from now.  As I began unbuttoning her pants she said, "I guess this means you wanted me to shave right away?"  As her pants hit the floor she began lowering her panties herself as she tried talking herself out of the impending spanking, "You didn't say when you wanted me to shave.  Right?"  

As I pulled her across my lap she gave out a nervous clearing of her voice and I explained, "When I tell you I want something done and especially when you agree to do it, I expect it to be done in a reasonable amount of time.  That's maybe a day or two at the most.  You knew I wanted it done and you kept putting it off.  Didn't you?"

She reluctantly replied, "Yes, I suppose.." and before she could finish the sentence I began spanking her bare behind.  There's no warm up it's just sound smacks from beginning to end.  After a few minutes my point was made and she dropped to her knees, stretched out her arms and gave me a huge hug as though she was saying, "Thank you for standing firm and not letting me get away with not doing what I was told to do.

My Wonderful, Spankable Wife Today!

When I first explained to my present wife, and hopefully last, that I'm a Spanker her reply was, "Yea, okay, so what did you want to tell me that was so important?"  To her it was a given.  She already knew there were many things in her life that she needed disciplining for and knew that a good spanking and a man unafraid to give them was something she needed.

There was no explaining why I spank or should spank her, she already knew why she should get spanked.  Another thing that she enjoyed was being taught, or trained, in regard to pleasing me sexually.  To her pleasing me sexually is a duty and a pleasure.  She enjoys me coming into the kitchen and grabbing her behind.  When I turn her around for a kiss and fumble with unbuckling her pants she simply does it herself and not once has she said, "Not here!"  Our sexual life isn't all about my gratification and she'd be the first to tell you.

Simply coming right out with telling her what I want is perfect for her because she doesn't have to play the guessing game.  There can be so much anxiety when one partner doesn't know, or has to guess, what the other wants or doesn't want from them.  She's far more comfortable with me simply telling her what I want and she feels it's her obligation and duty to fulfill that need or desire.  

She was the first to explain to me that if she failed, at anytime, to please me sexually I should blister her bottom but good.  I have rarely needed to spank her anymore during our sexual play time.  Although there have been times when she tries hurrying things up a bit and doesn't pay enough attention.  On those occasions she gets put across my lap and spanked.

Trust me, it works wonders on her and certainly keeps her focused with the task at hand, or in her hand shall I say.  We have a code, like most couples with kids, for many things and they deal with spanking and sex.  For example, I get up early so I go to bed early.  On those occasions when I'm wanting sex before I go to bed I'll tell my wife to come "tuck" me in.  I do that when there are younger ears around.  We'll be driving and she tells me how much money she spent, over budget, on something and I'll say, "We need to find a park and ride."  That's code for you're getting spanked.

I wouldn't say my wife enjoys getting spanked.  If there's enjoyment it would be that getting spanked is the worst that happens.  Sure there's some scolding but there's never abuse.  There's never going to be a time when she gets slapped in the face or beaten like many cowardly, so called, men do.  If she knows in the morning that she's getting spanked later that day there's a bit of anxiety over the impending spanking but there's never anxiety and fear over wondering what is going to happen.  What's going to happen is what always happens.  She gets pulled across my lap, her bottom is bare and she gets a spanking plain and simple.

After every spanking she's been given, and by the way she either asks if it's over or I tell her it is before she attempts to change positions, she immediately gives me the biggest huge.  I mean she clings on for dear life.  It's as though she's telling me thanks for setting her straight.  I love my wife and wouldn't trade her for all the gold in the world.

#1 female needing a spanking!

Tiger Woods' ex-wife when she bought a $12 million home and bulldozed the whole thing.  She is top of my list.  If you have so much money you can throw away 12 million dollars like that you need a long hard spanking.

My Patience is running out!

It's been a hectic few weeks with Christmas and New Years so I've made allowances for that confusion but now it's time to get back to some kind of normalcy.

This new year needs to have far less chaos.  Right now there are video games scattered all over the living room floor and they need to find a place to live other than where they've been for the past week.  

So, when I get home from work today I'm sure I'll see a cleaned up and livable living room or it's spanking time.

I'll call her Angel

My Black Widow wife and I were in a pretty thick and nasty divorce when I met, I'll call her Angel.  Going through the divorce from hell was pretty much taking up my extra time and when I met Angel I wasn't at all looking to get into another relationship.

I had gone back to the Karaoke place, I hadn't been there in years, and word traveled fast that I was going through a divorce.  Angel wanted to sing a duet with me so I sang one with her.  After word she invited me to her table and started telling me how much better of a girl friend, or wife, she would be.  It seems like the best luck I've had in finding submissives is when I wasn't looking.  And not just, not looking, but practically pushing away from them, or her.

The more Angel hinted and pushed the more I stepped back.  I did that because I really wasn't interested, not that she wasn't pretty but I had a lot on my plate in my personal life.  She wanted my phone number and at the time I couldn't have imagined her a submissive.

She called almost twice a day for about a week or so.  Sometimes just leaving a message and other times she'd actually get me at home.  Again, there weren't a lot of cell phones around yet.  Finally she said she wanted to cook me a dinner at her place.  I accepted the invitation and the dinner wasn't half bad.  She had a 15 or 16 year old daughter and she was there too.   After dinner she gave me a hug and I left.

She didn't seem, or wasn't my type, and I kept putting her off until she finally wanted to know straight out if we could date.  I told her straight up and matter of factly that I spank and added, to really make her uninterested, that from what I could see she needed a lot of training.  Yes, training.  I did say that to her.  I think she was, shall I say, so hard up to be in a relationship that she agreed to the spankings by saying something to the effect that, "I can think of a lot of times when I needed a spanking."  And, "I think training is a good idea."

It turned out that she was on a house monitor for her second or third DUI that of course wasn't her fault.  At that time too her daughter, as young as she was, moved out to and into her boyfriends place.  Her boyfriend was still in his teens and lived at home so it was strange to say the least.  Because of her leg monitor she couldn't leave the house except once a week and she chose the Karaoke place as the one place.

I had stopped by unannounced a few hours after we'd talked on the phone and she was both happily surprised and embarrassed because of how messy her place was.  I can tell I had a spanking good time taking her around the apartment and spanking her for one mess after another.  It was her first time to ever get spanked as an adult and it made her hot and horny.  As the relationship went on it was clear that she was used to abusive relationships and was more used to getting violently knocked around by her boyfriends than calmly and benevolently spanked.

Within less than a week I had her trained to meet me at her apartment door when I came over, go to her knees and start giving me a BJ.  If I didn't feel she was giving her all I would spank her as incentive and it worked well.  She was a very out spoken person, rebellious for certain and opinionated.  Not that out spoken and opinionated is wrong but I'm mentioning that because from standing outside the relationship you would NEVER guess she was being trained and spanked almost daily.

As I watched her in social situations she reminded me of a lot of women through the years who have had strong views and opinions about feminism and equal rights for women and so on.  On the outside she was this feminist, almost activist, and on the other hand when I would pick her up from her DUI classes once a week at night I would park anywhere secluded and tell her to give me a BJ and she'd do it immediately.

One of the best spanking experiences with her was when I found out that she had said some nasty things to a friend of hers at the Karaoke place.  I don't even remember what it was all about but I told her to apologize to her and tell her friend that for her behavior she would be getting spanked and I wanted her to come over and witness the spanking.  It was another one of those off the wall, let's try this and see what happens moments.  Angel came back over about 10 minutes later and waited for me to ask her about her friend's response.  I asked and she replied, "She'll come over but she has to leave now, so she'll follow us home."

Her friend followed us out the door and she went to her car and we went to mine.  Sure enough she followed us home, parked and went into Angel's apartment with us.  Once we were all through the door I sat on the back of the couch, pulled Angel over my lap, lifted up her dress and down came her panties.  Her friend stood there frozen as I began spanking Angel's bottom soundly.  Angel quickly started with the tears and when I was finished she, without thinking her friend was there, dropped to her knees after I was done with the spanking and began unbuckling my belt for my BJ.  The second her friend realized what was now going to happen she said, "I'd better go now," turned and as she walked out the door said, "I'll call you later."

I have to admit that for the most part Angel was just a joy toy.  Actually she was my first and only.  In other words I had no plans with any kind of serious future with her.  I knew on the one hand she was using me because of her DUI stuff.  I could also see, from time to time, her anger issues that would flare up.  She was also extremely jealous too.  Just talking to another woman would cause her to question, "What did you say to her?  What did she say to you?  Why were you talking to her?"   It could be that I was just talking to the female clerk at a gas station and I'd get a thousand questions when I got in the car.

When I did break it off it actually took about 4 months for it to happen.  She was in deep denial.  If I had seen her making serious changes due to her DUI I might have kept the relationship going but she was in such denial about so many things.

The New Year is Here!

If you're anything like me you've made some kind of list about all the things you want and don't want to do this new year.  Some of us write the list down and others, like me, just keep a mental note.

As every new year comes and goes I am more and more reminded that I too am aging.  This may sound silly to some, or most, but the fact is that most of the time I don't see myself as someone in his 50's.  Then, perhaps when I'm at a store somewhere and I'm looking into a mirror or some reflection, I see my hair is pretty much white now.  It used to be jet black.  

I remember how I wanted my life to be when I had my 20th birthday, then my 30th birthday, then my 40th came along and then my 50th.  I'm one of those fools who pretty much thinks, "You're never too old to,.."  But, from time to time now I am starting to realize that I am too old to do some things.  Most of those things however are along the lines of climbing a mountain, deep sea diving in a one man submarine and so on.  Things I really never wanted to do anyway.

I suppose I enjoy a lot more things now than I did when I was 20 and even 40.  I've come to realize that there are so many simple things that a person can derive pleasure and happiness from that life's too short to not see the glass is half full instead of half empty.

This year my hope is I will always remember what I've been blessed with before I think about what I don't have and perhaps never will.